Panties certainly seem to be the hot topic this week, so I can't resist sharing our thoughts. They are always a hot topic for Barry; and to a lesser extent, for me. When I discovered Barry's fetish interests and his extensive collection of photographs, the number of photos of that focused on panties, stockings, and/or girdles was second only to spanking. The photos of women in panties didn't surprise me, because Barry has always tried to find ways to get me to wear sexy lingerie both in and out of the house. However, the number of photos he had of men wearing panties was a huge surprise. When we talked about his interest in panties, he couldn't explain it any better than what I am reading in the blogs this week. He shared some of the same stories I have read this week about the Sears catalog, sneaking into panty drawers (including mine), etc. He can't explain it. He just finds women's panties and stockings exciting.
From the beginning of our marriage, it was clear that he wanted me to wear sexy panties with a garter belt and stockings. That was completely foreign to me. However, I tried to be accomodating. I was not comfortable at that time wearing them out of the house, but I would dress like that in the bedroom for him. It was very apparent that it had a very positive effect on him. Before I discovered his photo collection, I used to think it was just a 'visual' thing, since I understand that men need much more visual stimulation than women. However, now I have come to believe it is much more. However, I don't know what it is. The suggestions this week about closeness to the female sex organ and the 'scent' of a woman all may play a role in it. Wouldn't it be interesting if we could do a study and figure out just what it is.
Let me now throw another question out there. When I saw Barry's collection of photos of men wearing panties, I found myself being arroused. I had never thought about such things, but there I was feeling sexually stimulated. I was especially intrigued by men who were clean shaven in that area wearing sheer or lace panties. I loved seeing the way the panties clung to and hugged the shape of the male genitals. I have done some exploring of the internet, I don't think I'm the only woman who reacts this way. So, what is it that causes this type of reaction?
I was also very struck by the photo that John Throckmortin posted in his "Punishment Panties" post in Spankable Husband. That was the impetus for me purchasing "punishment panties" for Barry. What triggered that in me? I confess that I can't explain it, but I was enthralled by the thought that I could incorporate something that was very exciting to Barry as part of his punishment. Hence, I decided to find a way to use panties to remind Barry that he had been punished.
Oh ... our minds work in so many strange ways that we can't explain. I feel like I have provided more questions than answers. However, I couldn't resist joining this wonderful conversation about panties.
Ken at Spanked by my Lady has also address panty aspect, but has also included the fascination and power of girdles. This is something that intrigues me. I also plan to explore it with Barry from several aspects. I want to see what his reaction will be to me wearing a panty girdle (I find it a bit exciting); and I also am toying with the idea of making him wear one. I must confess that I am wondering what it would look like if I cut a small hole in the appropriate place of a panty girdle that would allow his genitals to be exposed while he wears the girdle. I think that could be a lot of fun :-).