Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Barry's Birthday Role Play - Part 3 (Saturday afternoon and evening)

Carol led me to the dining room, where I found a bare dining room table with no chairs around it.  The table is one that can allow extension pieces to be put into it to make it larger.  Carol had opened the table about 4 inches, so there was a small gap in the middle. She had also brought the bondage system from Barry's bed and installed it under the table, so that there were bondage points extending from each of the tables four legs.

As I looked on in amazement, Carol began to explain her thought process.  Barry would lie face down on the table and be bound spread-eagled to the four legs.  She would stay outside the table or on top of it, straddling Barry ... where she could spank him.  I would be below, where I could do whatever I wanted to do with respect to his penis and testicles which would be hanging down.  It would allow us to create the scenario in the video he loves ... with two, not one, individuals involved.  It would also allow us to spank and tease Barry at the same time.  And, it would allow me to do whatever I wanted to do to Barry without Carol knowing what I was doing.   I couldn't believe what she had created.  I quickly said, "Let's do it".

We decided to blindfold Barry before bringing him into the dining room.  We led him there and then helped him climb on the table, where we made sure his manhood protruded into the slot available and then bound his ankles and wrists to the four corners.  I quietly went below, while Carol began to lightly spank him.  When I first touched his penis, I could tell he was surprised (and pleased).

Carol then continued to spank him as I continued to sexually tease him.  We didn't verbally communicate, but I was able to keep him aroused as she intensified the spanking.  We kept him on edge for what must have been at least a half hour.  There came a point when she slowed down the spanking.  That gave me an opportunity to ask Barry if he wanted to climax.  Of course he did.  When he said "yes", I informed him that there would be a price to pay.  By this point, he was just needing to climax, and was ready to agree to anything.  We had kept him sexually aroused (off and on) for almost 18 hours.

I could tell that Carol was continuing to back off on the spanking, so I increased the manual stimulation.  But, I also made sure I kept him under control.  I also reminded Barry that he needed to have our permission to climax. He was finally again begging for permission for a release.  When I finally gave it to him, he climaxed in a matter of 10 or 15 seconds.  And his seminal fluid went everywhere!

And then I reminded Barry that there was a price to pay.  And, I kept stroking and teasing his penis.  Thankfully, Carol was still sitting on his back and she realized what was going on.  She stayed there as I kept stroking and teasing.  She also resumed a light spanking.

It was clear that Barry was in distress, but I also sensed that he was loving it in a way.  I continued for for what must have been several minutes before I stopped.  When I did, it was clear that it was a relief.

We eventually released him from the table and Carol led him back to the family room, where she bound him to the theater chair while I took a shower.  I had his cum all over me, including in my hair.  We let him rest in the chair for over an hour. We then started showing him photos from the flash drive.  Much to my surprise his penis came back to life.

So, using the Hitachi, I made him climax again.

After another hour, we repeated this process.  Again, I was surprised at his response.  After another hour, when I tried again, he achieved an erection, but even the Hitachi could not induce a climax.  We had worn him out.

At this point Carol and I looked at each other and shared the joy of achieving all of our goals.  Barry had wanted some realism.  And, Carol and I had set a goal of giving Barry lots of pleasure, as well as frustration, and meeting his desire for experiencing some reality.  That final goal of his was achieved by hopefully making him understand that fantasy is very different than reality.  We provided a lot of fantasy, but in the end, we provided some harsh reality.

It was after 6 PM by this time, so we heated up the lasagna and enjoyed a relaxing dinner together, with some wine, and used that opportunity to debrief.

Barry was the first to share and his initial comment was "I don't ever want to receive a two quart enema again."  I couldn't help myself and I giggled a little bit when I asked him "But, since you have a number of enema bag photos, I thought that was something that intrigued you."  He admitted that it was, but that he learned the hard way that it is better left as a fantasy.  He did say that he enjoyed lying over Carol's lap as it went in, that the pleasure ended there.  Standing in the shower and holding it was awful and it seemed like it would never all get out of him.  Barry seemed to like everything else.  He specifically commented positively about the prolonged spankings and how sore his bottom now is, even though the spankings were not hard to endure at the time.  He also commented about how being edged for so long was difficult, but rewarding at the same time.   He had similar feelings about his time on the milking table in the dining room.  He loved it, even though the continued stroking after his orgasm was hard to endure.  He especially liked the realism that Carol and I brought to the role play and the way we played our roles.  He also commented about being blindfolded at different times and how that made things feel more intense.  It was clear that he was pleased and that the enema was the only negative part of the role play for him.

Carol and I were equally positive.  I was very happy with how she handled her additional freedom to participate more.  She and I are quite comfortable working together.  The only negative for me was that I was somewhat inhibited by Carol's presence sometimes.  There were sexual things that I would have liked to do if Barry and I were alone, but I was not comfortable doing them in front of Carol.  I really appreciated the fact that when she created the milking table in the dining room, she stayed on top of the table and left be below with Barry's dangling penis and testicles.  However, knowing she could hear what I was doing and the fact that I didn't know what Barry would say at any time, I  was still somewhat inhibited.  However, that is minor.  The important thing is that Barry and I each have a high level of trust in her, so we are OK letting her enter this realm of our life.

As a final note, I was amazed at Carol's creativity in helping me create this role play, especially with respect to utilizing furniture in her house.  The theater chair, ottoman, and dining room table provided amazing "pervertible" furniture to create an atmosphere for Barry.

By 9 PM, it was time for Barry and me to head home.  My car was in her driveway, since I had driven there on Friday afternoon and rode back to our home in her car in preparation for us using it to kidnap Barry.  I think we were all exhausted, but I also had some other needs that needed to be met before we were done.  Barry wasn't the only one who was kept on edge for a little over 24 hours!


Monday, March 30, 2015

Barry's Birthday Role Play - Part 2 (Friday night/Saturday morning)

When Barry came into the kitchen, it was obvious that he hadn't enjoyed the enema experience.  He was quite grumpy and had no signs of an erection.  We had him sit on a hard stool at the counter and asked if he would like some lasagna.  He took it, but barely touched it as we continued to make it clear that we were in charge and that he would be soundly spanked as soon as he finished.

We finally gave him five minutes to finish his plate, at which time we would remove it from him.  When the time was up, we led him into Carol's family room/entertainment center.

In that room, we had set up several areas of activity.  The first one that Barry noticed was two straight-backed chairs facing each other.  He knew from experience what that meant, and it was evident that it excited him.

He next noticed the two theater chairs similar those pictured here, which had a pair of wrist cuffs attached to each arm.  The two ottomans were placed to each side of one of the chairs and each had a length of thick nylon rope attached to its base.  It didn't take Barry long to realize he would be well secured with his legs spread.

He then looked at the huge flat-screen TV which the chairs faced.  On the piece of furniture below the TV was Carol's laptop, connected to the TV system with the flash drive containing all of Barry's porn files.  Near the chairs was a table containing an array of toys that I had provided, including:  Barry's penis pump, an electric toothbrush, a Wartenberg wheel, small pieces of sandpaper, our Hitachi vibrator, a Fleshlight (newly purchased), several tubes of various creams, and a dozen spring-loaded clothes pins,

Finally on the other side of the room was a "pervertable" spanking
bench that Carol had created using a large upholstered ottoman (2' x 3') to which Carol had tied length of nylon rope to each foot.  There was also a table nearby that contained a wide variety of spanking tools, including thin wooden paddles of various sizes (some of which were new purchases), leather paddles, a wooden ruler, a leather strap, and a cane (new purchase).

I then explained to Barry that during his stay at the "Retreat" house, he was going to be kept constantly aroused and be frequently spanked.  His response was a hardening erection.

Carol and I started on the evening activities by taking him over our laps as we sat in the chairs facing each other.  We must have spanked him for at least 30 minutes, making sure we kept him aroused, but also making sure we were continually increasing the redness of his bottom and thighs.  We then secured him to his theater chair in a completely exposed position.  After starting a video from his porn collection, we used the various toys available to tease him.  After teasing him with the Wartenberg wheel, Carol installed the penis pump and pumped all the air out of it.  After leaving him like that for over a half hour as we watched videos, we took it off and moved him to the ottoman spanking bench, which we made him straddle with his legs and lie on it face down before we secured his hands and ankles to the four legs.  That position left him completely exposed to us.  One of us then straddled his back as we both paddled him (again, keeping him aroused, as well as well spanked).

By about 11 PM, as we placed him in the theater chair for the third time and after Barry had experienced all of the toys there (including clothespins on his nipples and scrotum), Barry began to beg us to let him cum.  Being compassionate, I told Barry that if he wanted to cum, we would give him 60 seconds to masturbate in front of us, like he did in what the hidden camera recorded in his office.  He quickly agreed; and then learned that it wouldn't be that easy.  Before allowing him to start, I rubbed lidocaine cream on the head and shaft of his penis and then covered him with two condoms.  We then delayed him from masturbating for over twenty minutes, providing time for the lidocaine to work.

When the timer went off indicating the end of his 60 seconds, we announced that it was time for another spanking and then to go to bed ... but perhaps we'd give another chance to masturbate in teh morning.  After taking him across both our laps again for a lengthy spanking with our hands and several thin paddles, and we led him into one of Carol's guest rooms.  There he saw a full size bed with no top sheet or blankets, but with the bed restraint system that we had used for our Christmas get-a-way.  After rubbing a little "Icey-Hot" onto his bottom and then securing him to the bed on his back in a spread-eagle position, I rubbed a second little dab of "Icey-Hot" onto his scrotum.  Neither were enough to cause any real pain, but enough to let him think of Carol and me as he tried to sleep.

During the night, Carol and I took turns visiting Barry to either spank or sexually arouse him every hour and a half.  Since I was sleeping in a guest room next to Barry's room, I couldn't help but hear Carol when she arrived for the first session.  It was apparent that she was teasing him with the Hitachi vibrator before giving him a lengthy spanking.  When my turn came an hour and a half later, I teased him to an erection and brought him to the edge before turning him over for a dose of our new bamboo paddle, which packs a very nice sting.  I must have slept through Carol's second visit.  At 9 in the morning, when we decided to get him up, it was clear that he hadn't had much sleep.  However, it was also clear that he was easily aroused.

After providing Barry with some breakfast we all returned to the family room, where we resumed the rotation of events we started the previous night, rotating between the two spanking stations and the theater chair where we showed him his favorite videos and photos while we physically and verbally teased him.  Of course, the toys were put to use as well.

Especially when we had him secured to the theater chair and watching videos or photos, Barry continued to beg for some sexual relief.  Around 1 PM, we had him watching a video he had saved called something like "Phantomette Handjob Torture".  A man is strapped to what looks like a kitchen table and is being strapped by a young women.  She eventually appears below the table, where his penis and scrotum are hanging through a hole in the table.  She proceeds to stroke him and tease him for a long period of time before she allows him to climax.  After she does, she then continues to stroke him, causing him great discomfort.  Barry was obviously very excited while watching it, when suddenly Carol jumped up and said "Hey, I have an idea". She then disappeared from the room.  When she returned, she asked me to come look at what she had arranged.  When I did so, I loved what I saw.

It was clear that she had found an unexpected way for us to move to the next stage of this role-play.  However, I should probably save that for the final installment.


Sunday, March 29, 2015

Barry's Birthday Role Play - Part 1 (Friday night)

When Barry returned from Home Depot late Friday afternoon, Carol and I were sitting in the living room enjoying a cup of tea together.  When he greeted us, I became very formal and directed him to go to our bedroom and get dressed in the 'office' clothes I had placed on the bed for him.  I also informed him that he was then to go to his office and wait for us to arrive.  I told him that we were going to do a role play and that the setting was early evening on Friday.  He is working late because of a major project that has to be completed for Monday.  He thinks he is the only one in the office.  I also shared with him that Carol and I would be playing the roles we assumed for our last role play:  I am his current office assistant and Carol is a former one.  He then quickly departed for our bedroom without saying a word.

When we heard him go to his office, Carol and I then went to the bedroom to change our clothes.  We took our time, because I wanted Barry to have time to ponder what was going to happen and increase his anticipation.  We each changed into our formal and conservative office clothes.

When we walked into his office, Barry immediately assumed the role and setting I described.  He acted surprised that I was still in the office and had no idea why Carol was there.  I got right down to business with him and explained that I am very concerned and disappointed that he has not learned anything that I have been trying to teach him.  I explained that I recently learned that our office intern had unexpectedly resigned, so I contacted her.  I learned that she resigned because he had attempted to spank her for lack of productivity.  I also pointed to the ceiling of his office where I had tapped a small toy video camera.  I asked if he had noticed that being there the past week.  He again played the role and was shocked.  I told him that it showed some very disturbing behavior: including him sitting at his desk staring at his computer and doing something.  I then made him tell Carol and me what he was doing.  It took a while, but he finally admitted that he was masturbating.

Once I had that admission, I took our scenario to another level. I told him that because he was obviously using the computer to aid him, I had taken the opportunity when he was out of the office to spend some time on his computer.  I was able to quickly use Windows Explorer to find a set of folders containing a very interesting collection of porn.  I then let him know that his browser history was extremely revealing.  Bringing it all together, I then showed him a thumb drive.  I explained to him that it contained a copy of all of his porn files and copies of screen prints of his browser history.

I have to confess that I never knew that Barry had acting talents.  But he does!  His face seemed to go pale as he said "Oh, my God!"  He began to beg me to give it to him and was promising anything.

It was then that he began to understand that this was going to be his birthday celebration role play (since his birthday is almost a week away).  I explained to him that Carol and I were going to teach him a lesson that would hopefully help him change his ways.  As I talked, Carol and I went behind his desk to take him under control.  Carol placed a blindfold over his eyes while I put his hands in cuffs in front of him.  I explained to him that he was coming with us to a place for a bit of a "retreat"where he will hopefully learn to understand how it feels to be treated like he is treating his female employees.

He began to protest that he would be missed and this would never work.  I then shared with him that I had talked with his wife and explained that she knows what we are doing (and why) and is in agreement.  She is the only one who will miss him.

We then led him to our garage and placed him in the backseat of Carol's car.  We directed him to lie down and stay there.  We then drove to Carol's home, where we had prepared everything earlier that morning (while Barry thought I was out shopping).

Carol drove very carefully.  We each understood that it would be a disaster to be stopped by our local  police with a man in our back seat who was blindfolded and handcuffed.

When we arrived at Carol's home we drove into her garage, helped him out of her car, and led him into the house. Keeping him blindfolded, we led him into her bedroom.  It was obvious that he was disoriented.... and that is what we had hoped for. We then undressed him,down to his panties.  We had to take off the handcuffs, but we kept him blindfolded.  I made a point of telling Carol to dispose of his clothing, because he would not need them during his stay here with us. The look on his face was priceless.

Still blindfolded, but stripped down to only his panties.  Carol couldn't resist commenting about how cute they were on him and how much she loved the color pink on him.  We led him into Carol's master bathroom.  When she and her husband bought the home they completely remodeled it.  The master bath is amazing.  It is huge and contains a shower area that is completely open to the room, and allows for two people to shower at the same time.  It also includes fixed shower heads and removable heads that can be used wherever desired.

In the middle of this huge shower area, Carol had installed our handcuffs that use suction cups to mount to the walls.  We quickly put Barry into them, facing outward with his hands and arms extending outward to each side.  It was then that we took off his blindfold.  He had a good view of the entire room.  It was fun to watch him take in all of the things that we had arranged in the room.  There was a lot to observe.  However, his eyes went immediately to an enema bag hanging next to the shower.

Based on what I had seen in Barry's collection of photos on his PC, I was well aware of his fascination with enemas.  However, we had not really gone there (other than using Fleet bottles).  He quickly realized that we were going there.

At this point,Carol and I told Barry that we were going to prepare dinner.  We left him, handcuffed to the shower wall, enjoying (I hope) the view of lots of things we had arranged on the counter.  As a side note, he was still in his panties and in his cage. And, it was apparent that he was aroused and straining at the cage.  We left him there for a half hour, while we put a lasagna that Carol had prepared into the office and then changed into more appropriate clothing.

I wanted to dress in a way that would add to Barry's arousal, so I chose the bustier with garters, stockings and panties that I purchased and wore for our Christmas get-a-way.  Carol was more conservative and wore and exercise outfit consisting of tights and bra top.  When we returned, we began our fun with Barry.  Carol again  commented on his pink panties and how cute they were.  She also traced a line around his cage through them ... teasing him about the cage and asking him questions about why he was locked up.  I joined in the fun and showed Barry the key that his wife had given me earlier.  After removing his panties I unlocked him and removed the cage.  Carol and I then both marveled at how clean shaven he was from his waist to his knees.  Using our hands to check the smoothness, it didn't take long for Barry to become aroused again, which of course we teased him about.

We then explained some rules to him.  First, we made it clear that "we owned him" at this time and he is to do whatever we ask.  Second, since he seems to be so obsessed with spanking and sex, we intend to keep his bottom well spanked and his penis hard during this little "retreat".  However, he must not allow himself to climax unless we grant him permission.  Grabbing his scrotum, I informed him that he would be very sorry if he climaxes without permission.  I squeezed just hard enough to get his attention and cause him to wince.

Carol and I then decided that we liked the smooth look, so we would shave his entire torso.  Keeping him in the shower, we first used a small electric trimmer to remove the bulk of the hair, and then followed with shaving cream and a razor.  We didn't really need to shave his midsection, but we did anyway, because it was fun to do so.  I did his genitals, but allowed Carol to shave his bottom.  I especially wanted that shaved to increase its sensitivity to spanking!

When we were done, we rinsed Barry down with the handheld shower and turned him around so that he was facing the wall.  I then applied some after shave lotion to his bottom and we both began spanking his nice smooth bottom.  It didn't take long for our hands to bring some color to it.  We then
led Barry out of the shower and I suggested that Carol sit on the dressing stool and take Barry over her lap and continue to spank him.  While she did that, I began preparing the enema bag, which Barry couldn't help but see me doing.  Carol commented to Barry that she could feel him getting hard against her thigh, so he must be enjoying himself.  I also teased Barry a bit about whether I should use cold or warm water in the bag.  I ended up using luke warm water with a little bit of liquid hand soap.  When it was ready, I rehung the bag on the hook on the wall, which was within reach of Carol.  I then used my finger to put some lube in his anus and suggested that Carol administer the enema.  She did so and allowed the bag to slowly empty and periodically stopping it when Barry exhibited signs of cramps.  When it was finally empty, I handed Carol a large butt plug which I had lubed and suggested that she "put the plug in".  After doing so, we had Barry stand up so we could admire and massage his distended abdomen.  Our teasing brought a little life back to his now flacid penis.  We then put him back in the cuffs in the shower and left him there for a short time.

When we returned, it was clear that Barry was uncomfortable (and no sign of an erection).  We released him from the cuffs in the shower and instructed him to remove the plug over the toilet and expel the enema; and to not leave the bathroom until he was sure it was all out.  We explained that we would be in the kitchen having dinner and that he should reinsert the plug and come find us when he was done.

This post is getting much too long, I also must confess that I am exhausted.  So, this seems like a good place to stop.I will continue to share ...as time and energy permits.


Friday, March 27, 2015

Barry's Birthday Role Play Takes Place Today

Barry doesn't know it yet, but in a little over an hour, he is going to get his birthday wish.  His birthday is next week, but this weekend provides a good time for Carol and me to enact his requested role play.  Carol has today and the weekend off from work.  She and I have been planning for almost three weeks now.  I decided to take Barry at his word that he wanted this to be a very realistic role play and not just a little fantasy.  At this point in our journey, I know I can trust his judgement.  I'm still not going to turn this into a major punishment session.  That is not what he requested.  But, he asked for realism, which is what Carol and I have planned.  He will be well spanked, but not to the degree that I consider punishment.  I want him to remain aroused, but still end up with a very sore and red bottom that he will remember for several days.  So, the spankings will not be harsh, but they will be frequent and  prolonged with lots and lots of sting!  I've purchased a couple of new paddles that are known for their sting.

Barry is at Home Depot right now, purchasing supplies for a major project he plans to start tomorrow.  However, when he comes home, he will see Carol's car in the garage in place of mine.  That should make him wonder.  It will eventually all make sense to him.

I drove my car to Carol's home shortly after Barry left for Home Depot and we returned in her car.  That has given us time to discuss our final plans.  Here is a summary of the role play we will enact to implement his request for a "9 to 5" type of scenario in which he is imprisoned and controlled by multiple women from his work.  We ended up deciding to make it a continuation of the "Corporate" Discipline role play we recently enacted.  It provides roles that we are each comfortable with, which we felt would be important.  She and I have had a lot of fun planning this together.  We also think we have come up with a very special birthday present for Barry.  It will be VERY realistic.  It will challenge him in some ways.  But, most importantly, we think he will really enjoy it.  That is our goal.  And, for those of you who keep recommending it, I have loosened up a bit about my control of Carol.  Her actions during the last scenario with Barry helped a lot to give me confidence to relax them.

So ... here is the Scenario:
Barry is a management employee and he has historically used his authority and power to force his female employees to submit to spanking and sex in order to keep their jobs.  I am his current assistant who turned the tables on him when he tried to spank me.  I gained control over him.  Carol is his former assistant who resigned rather than deal with his inappropriate behavior and management technique.  I brought her back into the picture in our last role play to help me deal with Barry's behavior.  I have also met Barry's wife and she knows what is going on.  She keeps him in a chastity device, but has given me an extra key to it.

As this role play begins, it is late Friday afternoon.  Carol and I will confront Barry in his office with our recently learned knowledge that since our last correctional meeting, he has attempted to force a female intern to submit to spanking and sex, which caused her to leave.  I will also share with him that I planted a video camera in his office, so I have videos of what he has done when he is alone there.  Finally, I will share with him that I had the opportunity to view his PC when he left the office unexpectedly one day last week.  What I found was shocking to me.  His collection of spanking and female submission porn was extensive.  I will let him know that I copied his porn files to a flash drive which I am very willing to share with upper management.  (Carol and I also plan to use these files during the role play)

So, when Barry arrives about a half hour from now, he will find Carol and I relaxing over a cup of tea.  I will greet him with "Happy Birthday" and suggest that he retire to the bedroom, put on appropriate office clothing, and go to his home office.  I will explain that it is late Friday afternoon and that Carol and I will join him in his office when we are ready to begin.  I will confirm with him that he wants this to be a realistic role play and not just a little fantasy fun.  The last thing I will share with him is that the scenario we are using is a continuation of our last role play.  That is all Barry will know about what will happen shortly

I think we will all enjoy what transpires, hopefully especially Barry.  I have slowly come to realize and understand how deep a submissive streak he has within him.


Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Barry's Physical

Barry's annual physical was today.  And, all went well with respect to his health!!  Hooray!

Everything also went well with respect to the men's silk briefs we purchased for him to wear.  They were very "panty-like", but also clearly had a pouch for his manhood, which made him more comfortable.

Our doctor was also clearly wonderful.  She openly expressed how pleased she was that we came together and we talked about how important that was.  I was thrilled when she went through his lab results.  His total cholesterol is 125!  And the ratios are all good.  His diet and medications are working well after his heart attack.  His blood pressure is also very low.

When it came time for Barry to strip down, she very nicely acknowledged the fact that Barry was shaved.  She asked him if there had been any health issue, such as a rash, that caused him to shave.  I was very impressed that Barry had the comfort level to respond "No, I do it because it pleases my wife".  She quickly came back with "That is wonderful".  That exchange made both of us feel very comfortable and allowed me to open up more during the visit.  I was also not surprised by her sensitivity and caring approach, because I have had two previous visits with her.  I thought Barry would like her very much, and that exchange sealed the deal for him.

When she examined his penis and testicles, she asked him if he periodically examines them for abnormalities that could indicate cancer.  He replied that he doesn't and didn't know that he should.  Feeling comfortable, I piped up with "That's interesting, because I have always been advised to do self breast exams.  To my surprise, Barry chimed in with "Yes, and I've been helping her examine them for forty years".  That caused us all to chuckle and for me to say "Perhaps I can now begin to learn how to help Barry examine his testicles".  She agreed and gave us a very nice lesson with respect to how to roll each testicle between our thumb and forefinger, and what to look for.  The good news was also that everything seemed fine.

She then had Barry bend over the exam table so she could examine his prostate.  His PSA test had come back fine, but she took the time to explain the limitations and concerns about that test to both of us.  She was very gentle with Barry and explained to him that he might feel some discomfort.  I was then amazed at how she dove in with her finger.  I couldn't resist asking her if this was another exam that I should consider doing for Barry.  She very nicely explained that it really isn't necessary to do it that often and it takes more judgement than what lay folks normally can provide, but she also very nicely complemented me about wanting to be proactively involved.  She made us all feel comfortable.  She is a gift.

Barry and I had a nice lunch at a local restaurant after the appointment.  It was a nice opportunity for us to discuss his impressions of his new doctor and how things went.  He really liked her and felt very comfortable talking with her, which made me feel really good.  We were also very pleased with his lab results.  I have to confess that it has been difficult for me to live with the unknown after Barry's heart attack.  It is one of those things that you realize can strike at any time.  It is hard.  But, Barry has been wonderful in his rehab efforts and religiously following the advice of his cardiologist.


Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Thank You Everyone

I want to express my sincere appreciation to all of my readers who shared their thoughts and advice with respect to Barry's upcoming physical (which is next week).  When I composed that post, I never dreamed that it would generate such an outpouring of heartfelt comments from your experiences in life.  It made me realize that there is a reason why I blog.  Thank you each and everyone.

I was also struck by the fact that so many of you offered your comments from your own perspective (which is where it has to come from), but also acknowledged in one way or another that Barry and I have to do what makes sense for us.

Although I shared a thank you in the comments of that post, I also wanted to compose this individual posting so that I could help make sure that each of you see it.  I also wanted to share with you Barry's and my decision, since your comments helped reach it.

First, regarding whether I accompany Barry to the doctor.  That wasn't really a big issue.  Barry and I have talked about it a lot in the past, especially during and since each of our major health issues last year.  We each want to be present with the other for all of the positive reasons offered.  The reason I mentioned it was because Barry was grumbling a bit about it at the time.  Looking back on it, I think that grumbling was caused by his concern about wearing panties. It was just another layer he could add to his complaint. When we finally sat down on Sunday night to really talk about both issues, he was very clear that we should both be there.

Wearing panties to his physical was definitely more of a concern to him.  I have come to understand and appreciate that.  Some of your comments raised the issue that if Barry is not comfortable in front of his doctor, he might not share things that are going on.  There is also the issue that this is the first time Barry will be seeing a female doctor, which adds another level.  So, when it came time to talk about this, I had a very different outlook.  I want Barry to get the best medical care he can, so I want him to feel comfortable with his physician.  That means no panties.  This process has also helped me understand that when I made the rule about only wearing panties, Barry and I were in a different place than we are now.  I was still dealing with his masturbation issues and was trying to gain control of some things.  We are well past that now.  The use of panties and Barry's chastity device have become symbols of his devotion (and submission, in some ways).  However, they are not critical in our relationship.  That made it easy for me to understand that I needed to relax the rule.

Barry actually likes wearing panties.  So, when we sat down to talk about what to do, he actually liked my idea of wearing men's silk or satin briefs that look and feel much like panties, but are a bit more "manly".  He would feel very comfortable wearing them, because they are designed for men, but also offer some of the things he likes about panties.

So, in the end, our decision was easy.

Thank you all, once again.  You are wonderful.


Friday, March 13, 2015

Annual Physicals

Barry has an annual physical scheduled before the end of the month.  He and I are currently discussing two issues with respect to that.  The first, and most significant, concerns whether or not I should go with him.  The second concerns panties.

Let's talk about the most significant first.  Given our age (low 60's), I feel it is important that we both go to each other's medical appointments.  I feel there is a need to have two sets of ears at these events.  Barry feels differently.  We have each had a major medical event in the last year and a half, which has made me more aware of this need.  During my situation, I was very glad to have Barry fully involved and helping me make decisions.  During Barry's event, which was much more acute, I had to be involved in making the decision of what to do because I have his medical power of attorney and he was incapacitated.  Both of these situations makes me more aware of the need to both be fully involved.  Due to the retirement of Barry's Primary Care Physician, he has now switched to my doctor, which to me, makes it even more logical that we both attend each other's doctor's appointments.

The second issue is really quite minor compared to the first.  Barry has been wearing only panties for two years now.  When he made the switch, we both agreed that he would discard all of his manly underwear (white briefs).  Last year was our first conflict about whether he should purchase some briefs.  Given my experience with my doctor, I didn't think it was issue.  She has me privately change into a dressing gown before she examines me, so she has no clue of my underwear.  Barry's doctor at that time operated differently.  He would have Barry strip to his underwear and then lower them for a more personal examination.  I eventually learned that Barry purchased men's underwear to wear to that exam.  They have since been discarded.  Since Barry will now see my physician, I don't see it as an issue.  However, he does.  I think a good compromise is for Barry to wear a pair of men's silk or satin briefs.  I have even ordered a pair of men's silk undereweaer on line for him.  But he is still concerned.  He's not convinced that she will treat him the same way as she does me.  I think he is also have some apprehension about seeing a female doctor (this is a first for him).

As a compromise, Barry has agreed to abide by the thoughts of my blog readers.  He has also read this message and feels that I have accurately portrayed the situation.

Please share your thoughts about both issues:

  • should I attend Barry's physical?
  • should Barry wear men's silk underwear that I purchased or traditional men's white briefs to the physical?


Monday, March 9, 2015

An Evening with Carol

We invited Carol to join us for a soup, salad, and bread supper last night.  I thought it would be a good time to share Barry's idea for his birthday role play with her.  It turned out to be a much more interesting evening than I would have every imagined.

I opened the conversation by sharing that Barry has requested a new role play as a special treat for his upcoming birthday.  Carol perked up and said "That sounds like fun.  What is the role play?".  I suggested that Barry should explain it.  He immediately began to blush a bit, but jumped right in and began explaining his idea of enacting a variation of "Nine to Five" where the two of us would imprison him for a lengthy period of time, during which we would sexually tease and punish him for his behavior with women in the office.  She immediately loved the idea and shared that she had lots of creative ideas for things we could do.  She then turned to Barry and said "May I ask you a very serious and important question?".   Barry responded that of course she could.  She then asked, "Is this something that you envision purely as a nice little fantasy, or do you envision the role play to contain some significant reality to it?"  Barry immediately responded that he wants it to contain significant reality.  He explained that this has been one of his favorite fantasies for a long time and that he would like to really be subjected to the control of two women and held accountable.  I couldn't help but blurt out "Be careful what you ask for!".

Further conversation revealed that Barry was very serious with his reply, so Carol and I said that we would take him at his word and begin preparing a special time for the three of us to properly carry out his fantasy. I then told Barry that I wanted him to begin preparing for the role play immediately by being locked up until the event.  I asked him to get his chastity device and bring it to me.  When he returned to the living room, I installed and locked it while Carol looked on with amusement.  I explained to Barry and Carol that I wanted him to be extremely horny by the time we do the role play and that keeping him under lock and key would assure that to be the case.  Barry suddenly realized that his birthday is still several weeks away and began to protest.  I simply reminded him that I had warned him to be careful what he asked for.

Carol then turned the thrust of the conversation to asking  us a lot of questions about Barry and I spanking each other, especially with respect to discipline or punishment.  It was clear that she was going somewhere with this line of questioning, but I didn't know where.  I finally asked her why she was so interested in how we spanked on those occasions and how we felt about being spanked as a punishment, etc.  She finally got to the point and shared that she is very intrigued about punishment spankings and would like to experience what one feels like.  She even went so far as to say that ever since she helped me spank Barry the other evening, she feels like she needs to know what a spanking feels like in order to understand how to spank him.  She then asked if I would give her a very sound spanking.  After a little further discussion, I agreed.  I asked Barry to fetch my hairbrush while I brought a dining room chair into the living room.  When Barry returned with the brush, I suggested that he excuse himself.  But Carol immediately said that wouldn't be necessary, as long as she was allowed to keep her panties on.  She added that since she has been part of Barry's spankings, it is only fair that he get to watch her receive one.   I looked at Carol and then at Barry, and decided to agree.

Barry took a seat on the sofa facing the dining room chair I had placed in the middle of the room.  After asking Carol if she really wanted to do this, I sat down and took her over my lap.  She was wearing a pair of tailored slacks.  I first began to spank her with my hand to provide a good warmup before getting more serious.  After about ten minutes she began to squirm a little, but it was clear that I needed to take things up a notch.  I asked her to stand and lower her slacks, which revealed pantyhose over her panties.  I then continued with the handspanking and eventually started using the brush.  I didn't use it hard at that time, but let the weight of the brush do the work.  It was clear that I was now getting her attention and she was starting react.  At this point I stopped and told her that the next level would be more serious and would reach what could be considered to be punishment.  I asked if she wanted to continue.  "OK", I said.  "This next phase will not be enjoyable for you, but I'll do it because you asked."  I then had her lower her pantyhose, but left her panties in place.  Once back over my knee I used the hairbrush with more vigor.  It didn't take long for her to really begin to react.  One hand came back, so I held it in place.  As she tried to wriggle off my lap, I used a leg to clamp her in place. When I was done, she was quietly sobbing as she lay limp across my lap.

After she stood up and pulled up her pantyhose and slacks, she also regained her composure.  We then sat down to talk about what had happened.  The experience was much more intense then she expected, but she was glad she had endured it.  At this point she also confessed that she has had fantasies about being spanked, which was part of why she asked for one.  She also admitted that reality was very different than fantasy.  She kept repeating, "Oh my God, I never realized how much it can hurt."

After a glass of wine, Carol thanked me again and we agreed that we needed to get together to plan Barry's next role play.  She again reminded me that she has some creative ideas that she would like me to consider.

Barry was very quiet during Carol's spanking and during the discussion.  When we got ready for bed, it was quite evident that watching the spanking had been arousing to him, even while being locked in his device.  The wide-spread wet spot on the front of his panties allowed no hiding the fact that a significant amount of precum had been generated.  When I commented about it, his only comment was "How could I not have been excited by it.  Your sister is quite amazing."  I had to agree, but didn't openly say so to Barry.

The next few weeks will be interesting with Barry locked up in preparation for his role play.  I plan to keep him well teased during this time.  His special birthday gift will be special because he will have kept me well pleased and be extremely ready to receive pleasure ... under my terms.  That sounds harsher than I mean it to sound.  I think it will make the role play even more special to him.


Saturday, March 7, 2015

Benefits of Devotional Sex Revisited

I have recently been having an email dialogue with a woman who lives just outside New York City.  Her husband and Barry have some common interests: spanking and masturbation.  Consequently, we have been sharing a good bit about them, as well as how we deal with them  As part of the discussion, I have raised a little bit about the impact of Devotional Sex on Barry's and my marriage.  I've realized that I probably need to tell her more, so I've decided to share my thoughts about the benefits of Devotional Sex a bit more publicly through this blog.

Devotional Sex, has had a huge impact upon our life.  Before we discovered it, Barry was addicted to masturbation to a point that he couldn't 'perform' in a normal sex situation with me.  That is when I learned to administer disciplinary spankings, because I was so frustrated with him.  That discipline had some impact on him, but I believe that Devotional Sex had more.  We still do a lot of spanking, because we each have learned to love giving and receiving erotic/fun spankings.  However, the need for purely disciplinary spanking of Barry is almost nonexistent at this time. When the need for disciplinary spanking occurs (and we each occasionally need it) it is for a good reason.  And when we each do it, it works.

As we explored and learned to practice aspects of Devotional Sex (DS), we learned how important it is to please each other.  As an example, prior to practicing DS, I was resentful of Barry's kinky needs and I had a very hard time wanting to fulfill them.  When we had intercourse, he goal was to climax.  He had little concern for whether or not my needs were fulfilled.  It is completely different now.  We have each learned to focus on pleasing the other.  I believe that the reason we learned that is because we each found that pleasing our partner made our partner want to please us.  That is a wonderful, positive cycle.  I also learned that by controlling Barry's orgasms, I ended up being even more desirable to him.  I still don't completely understand why that is.  But, I know that it works.  Perhaps it is because Barry loves 'tease and denial'.  I don't know.  But, I do know that Barry now wants to please me because he has learned that by doing so, I want to please him.  And, because I want to do that, he understands when I say "No, not tonight", it is OK.  It may happen the next night.  He knows it will happen at an appropriate time because I want to please him.

Another good example of the power of DS concerns how Barry has learned to manage his addiction to masturbation.  When we started, he couldn't control the urge, even with the threat of disciplinary spanking.  Because of that, he asked me to lock him in a chastity device when we were going to be separated.  Now, he seldom asks me to lock him up.  However, he frequently wears the device without a lock.  From what he has shared with me, I have come to the conclusion that he does so because wearing the cage creates an awareness to him that he wants to wait for when we can make love together.  That makes me love to see him wearing the cage.  There are also times when I like to lock him up as a tease.  He knows he will eventually get what he wants, but he doesn't know when.  We each seem to benefit from my having that control ... and I can't completely explain it.  I've given up trying.

I realize that I've rambled a bit, and I apologize.  However, I hope that my ramblings have communicated how beneficial DS has been in our lives.  I'm sure it's not for everyone, but it has been a blessing to us.


Thursday, March 5, 2015

Barry's Birthday Request

Barry has a major birthday coming up.  In preparation for how to celebrate it, I asked him how he would like to celebrate it.  I was thinking in terms of celebrating with friends and family.  Barry and I are both not big party people, but I wanted to make sure he didn't want me to throw a party.  Much to my surprise, Barry answered from a very different perspective.  He was thinking of sex!  He immediately shared that he would love to have another role play with me and Carol.    I quickly shifted my thought process and asked him if he had something in mind (knowing that he must).  Our discussion led to him sharing another of his long term fantasies.  He shared that he has always fantasized about a scenario which originated from the "Nine to Five" movie in which female employees imprison their boss.  He has obviously been thinking about this more ever since we started our recent series of role plays.  He shared that he would love to experience a lengthy role play scenario in which Carol and I imprison him and sexually  tease him, as well as punish him.

After I got over the surprise of his proposal, I have started to pursue his suggestion with Carol.  I'm not sure where this will lead,