The past month or so has been extremely challenging, but also very rewarding. Finding ways to provide care for their elderly parents brought Barry and his sister much closer together than they have been in many years. They really worked well together as a team and each respected the opinions and talents of the other and put them to good use. It also unexpectedly provided an opportunity for much more to be shared.
On the Saturday before Thanksgiving when we were moving Barry's parents to their new assisted living facility, we were all working at a frantic pace to move their most important possessions into their new apartment. When the day was done, we all collapsed back at the family home and decided to order out for pizza and celebrate with beer and wine. After several glasses of wine, Joan (Barry's sister) all of a sudden asked Barry why he is wearing women's panties! We later learned that Barry had apparently retucked his shirt in at some point and got it between his panties and his body ... leaving his panties visible when he bent over to lift and carry things. Barry was initially so surprised and shocked by the question that he didn't know what to say. I tried to jump in and save the situation by saying that he does it because he knows I like to see his cute little bottom in nylon. Unfortunately, Joan didn't let it drop at that and the amount of wine and beer we had consumed reduced a lot of our inhibitions. Joan eventually directed Barry to drop his trousers so we could all see his cute little bottom. Surprisingly, he immediately did. That would have been fine except for the fact that his sheer nylon panties not only showed his bottom, but also clearly showed the outline his chastity device.
Joan immediately picked up on that and the conversation took on a whole new level, since the device couldn't be denied and there was no way to explain it away. Before the evening was over, we all learned more about each other than we ever dreamed and probably ever wanted to learn. One of the things I learned was that Joan, who is 5 years older than Barry, was very dominant with Barry during their childhood. She is also the dominant partner in her long-term relationship with Carol, who was also part of the family team and present that evening. It also eventually came out that I spank Barry and the Joan spanks Carol.
Needless to say, I suspect we all went to bed feeling very surprised and/or confused. In the morning, we had breakfast and proceeded to pack up and head home without any further discussion. When we came together with Barry's parents for Thanksgiving, there was no time for any private discussions.
I am still trying to process all of the dynamics of that evening, as well as some of the details that we each shared with each other. I'm sure there will be further conversation, but I'm not sure how it will start.
Aren't families unique and fun?
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Things are finally beginning to settle down in our lives. On Saturday we moved Barry’s parents into a wonderful assisted living facility that will be able to provide the daily support that they need. It has been a long haul to get to this point, but Barry and his sister have worked beautifully together to provide care and support up until this point and to convince their parents to make this move. It will allow all of us to sleep better knowing that they are safe and well cared for between our visits. They live approx. 100 miles from us and about 50 miles from Barry’s sister. For the past month or so, we have been spending every Saturday and Sunday with them and Joan has been stopping by for a night in the middle of the week. We will all celebrate Thanksgiving together tomorrow, and will be a very meaningful one for all of us.
During the past month, I have tried to maintain some sort of consistency with Barry, but it has been a challenge due to all that was going on. He stayed in his chastity device and panties, but our play time was much more limited than either of us would have liked. Since Saturday night was spent at this parents, Friday night became our one consistent play time, as well as his time for shaving. Sometimes we were to have some relaxed time together during the week, but it was challenging.
One change I made was to allow Barry out of his device one or two nights each week, with the definite one being Friday night when we shaved him. I tried to do the same on Tuesday to split the week up a bit. I have found that it is good for it to come off at least every few days for a thorough cleaning of both Barry and the device. On those nights, I replace the device with the Ride-On penis extension. That provides some protection from stimulation of Barry and allows me to be sexually satisfied. Barry also seems to enjoy prancing around with what feels like a full size penis to him J. I confess that I get quite a kick out of watching himself in the mirror when he has it on.
Our play nights also include significant controlled sexual teasing of Barry. He is not allowed to climax without my permission, which I only give every couple of weeks. He is getting quite adept at controlling his orgasm when he tries. If he fails and starts to orgasm, I immediately stop any stimulation, which really spoils it for him, and I immediately give him a serious spanking as punishment with either our ruler paddle or the lexan. That has only happened twice and he has definitely learned that it is not wise to climax without permission.
We are both looking forward to returning to more normalcy in our lives and having more time to play. I also look forward to getting back to this blog. I’ve missed being able to share and to spend reading what is going on in other blogs.
Happy Thanksgiving all…