Saturday, January 28, 2012

Barry's Time: Life in a Chastity Device

Susan has directed me to begin posting on a regular basis and has strongly indicated that she expects me to share the trials and tribulations of being kept in chastity. This is truly a challenge for me because I am not very adept at sharing my feelings. However, I am going to do my best.

When Susan bought my first chastity device, I expected it to be a fun toy that I would be locked in for a day or so at a time when Susan was not around to assure that I kept my promises to not search the Internet and not masturbate. However, it did not take long for her to decide that I was to be kept under lock and key essentially 24/7 and she has kept that promise for a number of months now. Other than when it is off for cleaning, she only occasionally allows me to keep it off for special outings or while we are sleeping.

Overall, I have found it to be very uncomfortable to wear constantly. Because it creates a constant low level of irritation, I am constantly aware of its presence, which only serves to also make me aware of my genitals and sexual desires. I am also a bit paranoid that it will be visible to others through my trousers, especially in warmer weather when I am wearing thin slacks or shorts.

We have tried two different models. The first was a CB6000 Short, which was initially not very successful when I was overweight. Due to my small penis size it would easily slip off. We then bought an Exobelt V1 which is what I was wearing when Susan first decided I would be locked 24/7. It was very uncomfortable and bulky, but quite effective. It essentially provided a total shield for my penis and scrotum. Fortunately, once I lost a significant amount of weight, my exposed penis length increased sufficiently to where the CB600 Short is very effective. It is somewhat more comfortable, but I am still constantly aware of its presence.

Susan also occasionally uses our Ride-On Prosthetic Penis Extender (PPE) as a chastity device when we are home together. She bought it for extension properties, which made me feel quite inadequate. I have always been very sensitive about the size of my penis (about 3-4" when I am erect). However, she had always told me that size didn't matter that I fully satisfied her. But that stopped after she purchased the Ride-On to alleviate a problem I was having with premature ejaculation (which is only exacerbated by being kept in chastity). Due to my small length and girth when erect, it does not allow me to feel much stimulation during intercourse, making me last as long as she desires. She also found that she loved the deeper penetration it provided. So, now it gets used for two purposes -- to allow me to provide her with a longer and deeper experience, and as a chastity device when we are together in the house. She seems to love watching me walk around sporting a more normal sized penis. Unfortunately, that desire has also caused her to begin talking about wanting to by a soft packer for me to wear around the house or in my bathing suit.

I can't complain too much when Susan gets new ideas and wants to try things. I think I opened Pandora's box when she discovered my collection of photos and videos on my computer. She quickly took on the challenge of learning to spank me (which I love) and she periodically reviews my collection to see what types of things I found exciting. Chastity was one of my collections.

I have slowly learned that I should be careful what I wish for, and that reality is VERY different from fantasy. Many of my fantasies are not nearly as exciting as reality. Chastity is one of those.


Friday, January 27, 2012

A Special Evening

Since I have the day off from work, I finally have some free time to get back to blogging and sharing some news.

In my last post, I mentioned an interesting time that Barry and I had in a restaurant a couple of weeks ago.  After all of our holiday company had finally departed, we decided to treat ourselves to a special night out at one of our favorite restaurants in a city about a half hour's drive from home, where we don't have to worry about seeing someone we know.  It is a small, intimate Italian restaurant in an old building with an excellent chef and very romantic atmosphere.

As we showered together in preparation to get dressed, I removed Barry's cage and told him that he was in for a very special treat that night, including not having to wear the cage to dinner.  As we finished our shower, I put his Ride-On penis extension on him and told him that I wanted an orgasm before getting dressed, to take the edge off.  With his extension, it didn't take long for him to grant my wish.  I thought about making him keep the extension on for the evening, but decided it would probably be too visible under his pants.  However, I did have something special for him to wear.  I had purchased several Christmas gifts for him that didn't get presented over the holidays due to lack of privacy.  One was a lovely light blue gartered teddy with matching panties, accompanied by a pair of black nylons.  After he opened the package, I let him know that I expected him to wear them under his suit to dinner.  He was a bit nervous about the teddy being visible under his shirt, so I made sure he wore a blue oxford cloth shirt that hid it quite nicely as long as he kept his jacket on.  I then dressed in his favorite garter belt, stockings, shelf bra, and sheer white blouse under a conservative business suit that provided sufficient coverage for the restaurant.

Before leaving home, I told Barry that I wanted him to wear his remote controlled vibrating penis ring and I added the control to my purse.  What he didn't know was that I had another belated Christmas gift that I was going to have him open in the restaurant.  After we enjoyed a drink and appetizer, I presented the second gift.  He was quite embarrassed when he opened the box to find a butt plug.  He quickly closed the box so that no one nearby could see it.  Of course, I then scolded him a bit about not being sufficiently appreciative and told him that I expected him to go to the mens room and insert it.  After he tried to stall, I told him that if he wanted his special treat when we got home, he had better play along with me.  He reluctantly complied, but what he didn't realize was that the plug was also a remote controlled vibrating unit.  As we walked back to our table, once he was close enough, I activated the vibrator using the remote and the look on his face was priceless.  What I didn't realize was that the vibrator was quite noisy and could be heard by the customers at the table he was passing!  Of course, they had no idea what was making the noise, but Barry certainly did.

Throughout dinner, I had little trouble keeping Barry's attention with both remote vibrators.  I confess, I thoroughly enjoyed keeping him stimulated.  Just prior to leaving, I made sure I toyed with both units and when he stood up, it was fun to watch him try to hide his state of arousal.    He mentioned needing to stop by the rest room on the way out and I said that I would do the same.  As we approached the hallway where two small private rest rooms were located, I could see that no one was nearby.  So, when Barry opened the door to the mens room, I quickly followed him in and locked the door behind us.  He started to protest, expressing his fear that someone would see us coming out.  However, it was too late for concern about that, since I was already in the room with him.

I told Barry that part of his special treat would be provided right now.  I took off the top to my suit so that he could enjoy the view and told him to remove his coat and trousers.  When he did, the wet area in the front of his panties made it clear that he had been aroused throughout the evening.  Then, taking his penis in my hand, I told him that we would first take care of why he came to the men's room.  I had never held him to urinate before, so it was a very unique experience for both of us.  I think he was a bit surprised by me moving it around in a playful manner while he peed.  Once he was done, I sat down on the commode and brought Barry in front of me with his panties pulled up.  After retrieving the remotes and turning them on, I began to play with his growing penis through his panties.  I told him that he was going to enjoy multiple orgasms that night, the first of which would be in his panties.  What I didn't tell was that this one was going to be a ruined orgasm.  It didn't take long for him to show signs of imminent climax and as soon as I felt the first convulsion in his penis, I stopped playing with it and enjoyed watching a fair amount of semen ooze out into his panties.  He was clearly frustrated, but smiled a bit when I told him that I just wanted to take his edge off so that he could last longer for his second orgasm when we got home.

We quickly got fully dressed and I left the bathroom first, telling Barry to lock the door again, wait two minutes and them come out.  What I didn't plan on was a woman standing in the hall waiting for the ladies room when I exited.  I just smiled, told her I don't mind treating these bathrooms as unisex facilities rather than waiting in line, and quickly moved on.  I hoped that she would not still be waiting when Barry came out.  However, I later learned that she was still there and gave Barry quite a strange look when he emerged.  He had heard me speak to someone when I exited, but he couldn't tell what I had said.  When the hall seemed quiet after two minutes he had decided to try to exit unnoticed.  I don't know if I will ever do that again, but I confess it provided a bit of a thrill to me and added to the excitement of the evening.

When we got home, I made good on my promise to Barry.  After teasing and toying with him a bit, I told him that his special treat would include actually having intercourse with me without the Ride-On.  Since he had already had one orgasm, he was even able to last long enough to provide me with a vaginal orgasm before he climaxed.

As I mentioned in my last post, my New Year's resolution is to add some more spice in our life this year and the evening felt like a good first step.  In that vein, tonight I plan to advise Barry that I expect him to start contributing to this blog again and will give him an assigned topic about which I expect him to post.  I will also give him a deadline of one week to complete his first assignment.


Monday, January 16, 2012

Catching Up

It's hard to believe that it has been almost a month since I last blogged.  The holidays took their toll on both Barry and me.  It seemed like we had company for an eternity between our children being home and hosting extended family for Christmas (which is a family tradition for us).  Barry's parent's were here for almost two weeks and his sister and partner also spent several nights.  Once we had the house back to ourselves, we took time to savor our privacy.

However, it now seems like I should do some 'catching up'.

Feedback on New Toys

After posting about receiving the Spanking Buddy and the RealDoe, a couple of you asked for feedback about them.  The Spanking Buddy is definitely a keeper.  I love it, and Barry seems to also enjoy its impact on his bottom.  We each love it when I provide Barry with a very prolonged over-the-knee handspanking, especially if it is not for punishment, but is still one that leaves him with a very red and sore bottom.  The Spanking Buddy makes that possible.  It is definitely not comparable to using a bathbrush or paddle for serious punishment.  However, it provides a much better spank than my hand and it allows me to spank for a very long time.

The RealDoe was less impressive.  I like the way it feels in me (especially with the built-in vibrator) and I have no problem keeping it in place.  I also like its larger size compared to the strap-on I have been using.  The RealDoe provides at least 7" of insertion and the strap-on was purposely purchased to be singificant smaller in order to approximately the size of Barry, but it now seems like we are ready to move to a larger model.  The biggest draw back of the RealDoe is its rigidness and the fact that it is difficult to change the angle of insertion.  That makes taking Barry in certain positions quite difficult and uncomfortable for both of us.  I love to take him while he is lying on his back with his hips at the edge of the bed.  It allows me to watch his face to to use my hands to tease him.  However, that position is almost impossible with the RealDoe.  I also sort of miss the fact that it doesn't have any testicles.  It just seems funny when I look at myself in the mirror.  So, I'm now about ready to order a larger model of my current strap-on.  I will keep you posted.

New Year's Resolution

During the past couple of months, Barry and I have seemed to be in a rut and have not felt the same level of excitement we have previously enjoyed.  Consequently, my resolution was to find ways to bring new ways of playing and enthusiasm to our life style.  I have already started to liven things up a little bit with some mind fucks I've played on Barry.  He seems to enjoy them, so I will continue to explore this area.  I'll share more detail about this in my next post, but I had some fun with Barry while we were in a restaurant not too close to home where we didn't have to worry about seeing anyone we know.  I'd also love to hear mind fuck ideas that others have used or experienced, since this seems like a fun way to keep things lively.

I would also love to have a portable spanking bench similar to what Deirdre uses over at Spanking My Husband.  I love the way it exposes her husband's penis for teasing and monitoring during a spanking session. However, so far, I've not been able to find a source for a bench like this that could be folded up and easily put out of sight.

Barry's Sister

As I mentioned earlier, Barry's sister Carol and her partner spent a couple of nights at our home over the holidays, which they always do.  I was a bit nervous about how things would go, especially since Barry' parents were also here.  However, things were OK.  I could sense some tension on Barry's part when she first arrived, but within a few hours the two of them were bantering back and forth like everything was perfectly fine.  Hopefully that will continue when just the four of us get together the next time.  I really love her and her partner dearly and would like us to be able to continue a strong relationship.

Shaving Barry

I've continued too keep Barry completely shaved, with him being responsible for doing most of the shaving.  I help only with areas that are difficult for him to reach or see.  I love the way he looks, especially when I require him to really 'dress' in full lingerie.  He doesn't seem to mind, but he has raised a concern that he is almost due for his annual physical.  I haven't yet decided whether to let him grow some hair for that.  I am really quite tempted to keep him shaved.  He has also been asking me to let him buy at least one set of boxer shorts or briefs to wear to his appointment.

Best wishes for the new year to all.  I look forward to being back in touch now.