Let's talk about the most significant first. Given our age (low 60's), I feel it is important that we both go to each other's medical appointments. I feel there is a need to have two sets of ears at these events. Barry feels differently. We have each had a major medical event in the last year and a half, which has made me more aware of this need. During my situation, I was very glad to have Barry fully involved and helping me make decisions. During Barry's event, which was much more acute, I had to be involved in making the decision of what to do because I have his medical power of attorney and he was incapacitated. Both of these situations makes me more aware of the need to both be fully involved. Due to the retirement of Barry's Primary Care Physician, he has now switched to my doctor, which to me, makes it even more logical that we both attend each other's doctor's appointments.
The second issue is really quite minor compared to the first. Barry has been wearing only panties for two years now. When he made the switch, we both agreed that he would discard all of his manly underwear (white briefs). Last year was our first conflict about whether he should purchase some briefs. Given my experience with my doctor, I didn't think it was issue. She has me privately change into a dressing gown before she examines me, so she has no clue of my underwear. Barry's doctor at that time operated differently. He would have Barry strip to his underwear and then lower them for a more personal examination. I eventually learned that Barry purchased men's underwear to wear to that exam. They have since been discarded. Since Barry will now see my physician, I don't see it as an issue. However, he does. I think a good compromise is for Barry to wear a pair of men's silk or satin briefs. I have even ordered a pair of men's silk undereweaer on line for him. But he is still concerned. He's not convinced that she will treat him the same way as she does me. I think he is also have some apprehension about seeing a female doctor (this is a first for him).
As a compromise, Barry has agreed to abide by the thoughts of my blog readers. He has also read this message and feels that I have accurately portrayed the situation.
Please share your thoughts about both issues:
- should I attend Barry's physical?
- should Barry wear men's silk underwear that I purchased or traditional men's white briefs to the physical?
Susan
Hi Susan,
ReplyDeleteBoth going together is a great idea. As for panties, making him wear silk or satin male briefs is no problem at all and if you make him wear women's panties, she has seen it before and won't be shocked . But she will lower them for most male exams ( prostrate and all that) so that does happen. The downside is that you do "out" yourself to some extent since panties on a male accompanied by his wife probably means to sophisticated people the male is under some sort of discipline. Again nothing wrong with that if you are comfortable with it, just be aware of it. My wife only makes me wear panties sometimes after a spanking for a few days to reinforce what happened. So I haven't been confronted directly with the issue so far. I do know she has told me that if I manage to earn a spanking close enough to a appointment that the marks are still visible I WILL keep that appointment. Good luck with it
Alan
I always go to my husband's exam. The doctor and I have been friends since high school. He wears panties to his exam and they're obviously panties. After years, he's still embarrassed. She has him strip to the panties then takes info, weight, blood etc. she tells him to drop his panties for the exam. His prostate exam is done with him spread wide in stirrups. She often leaves him that way whilexwectalk. That gets me very very wet seeing him spread and vulnerable. After that he's happy to put his panties back on
ReplyDelete1)Definitely you should be there for medical appt's.My wife and I go each other's appt's with no problem at all.
ReplyDelete2)The panties issue... I would give him a pass on that.Let him keep his dignity(wear regular boxers/briefs)in front of an unknown person for him.He will come around after a few visits.
If he was my husband he would do what I tell him or my doctor would see a very red bottom when his panties were pulled down for the prostrate exam. But reading your blog recently I am not sure if your relationship is still disciplinary or has settled on spanking as a mainly erotic activity. So if discipline is not involved it sounds like he is more comfortable with male underwear and I would let him decide. Let’s face it, making them wear panties especially in public is discipline. If you are not disciplining him, let him wear whatever he wants.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the last two anonymous commenters: (1) Go with him to his appointment. (2) Let him wear what is "comfortable" with him.
ReplyDeleteI have been a longtime reader but this is my first comment. We are close in age and we always go to each others dr appts. You are correct that a second pair of ears are crucial. As far as panties, let him wear what he is comfortable in the first visit. On subsequent visits, he wears what you direct him to wear.
ReplyDeleteYou should attend and ask the questioins and get the report. He should wear panties. Good trainng for him. Do you have him shave, too?
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My suggestion is that you should of course attend the examination.
ReplyDeleteHowever, give him some leeway with his discomfort and allow him to wear relatively masculine underwear (of your choosing).
Inform him that if your theory that he could have worn his normal panties proves correct with the new doctor, in all future visits he will be having you in attendance, and wearing whatever undergarments you desire.
He will of course readily agree to thsi proposal, gaining a short term feeling of autonomy, but surrending all control over such issues to you in the long term - voluntarily.
I think it's a wonderful opportunity to embarrass him in panties. Imagine if he is allowed to wear men's briefs this time, but you both wish to move to panties subsequently as some have suggested. The Doctor would become suspicious that you are playing with her. On the other hand, since this is Barry's first visit, you can establish right away that this is normal practice for him, and even discuss the nature of your relationship. I would not miss this golden opportunity to spice things up and push Barry's limits. Isn't it a deception to allow him out of his panties?
ReplyDeleteJulie makes a point as she always does but not everyone is as daring as Julie. If you do make him wear panties you are telling your doctor you are in a disciplinary relationship with Barry. You are not just pushing his limits but yours as well. I am not really opposed if its what you want and I actually think more people should be more open about DD. But telling your doctor is different from playing with trusted friends or family members.
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Looking through your earlier posts I see the House Rules of November 21 2014. My opinion is based on the assumption that he agreed to these rules and they haven't been set aside. Rule 10 says you attend all medical appointments with Barry, so that's all there is to it. (And it is indeed a wise practice. If there is some element of the exam the doctor thinks would best be done in private due to medical ethics, she'll tell you and Barry.)
ReplyDeleteRule 5 says Barry wears women's panties at all times for underwear. It doesn't list exceptions, and there's no other rule about "if one of us is embarrassed, that person can set it aside." Your willingness to provide compromise undies is, to me, a gesture of sympathy he'd be wise to accept very gratefully.
Your House Rules address both issues very directly. If he continues to put up a fuss about it, clearly the Rules and their ability to guide behavior need revision. Go to the doctor with your wife, Barry, and wear the underwear she gives you.
Mistress K. and I recently faced a very similar http://subhubphx.blogspot.com/2014/11/annual-physical.html)
ReplyDeleteI specifically asked Mistress K. to be in attendance for the very reasons you suggest in your post. I'd feel so much knowing that she is hearing and seeing the things that the doctor would be saying so she/we didn't have to rely on my ability to tell her how things went afterward. So yes, absolutely you should go.
As the other part. Like Barry, my doctor is now a woman. A cute, young, redheaded woman. It was a coincidence that she was cute and redheaded because we chose her because she is a specialist in the area of a particular malady that I have. Anyway, when my scheduled physical was approaching, I asked Mistress if we should tell her about our lifestyle. If I should allow my pubic hair to grow. If she wanted me to wear panties to the physical. All of which I was more than willing to do. Mistress said no!
Your situation is different because the hesitation for such things is more Barry and less with you. In true FLM fashion, my vote is for yes, of course, be there for the physical, and yes, have him shaved smooth and wearing panties, especially since it is a doctor you are already comfortable and familiar with.
I so much love your blog!
My wife has had me wear panties for over 7 years now, 24/7. I have no male underwear. I have gone for my physical every year since, and have always wore panties? A black nylon or beige colored spandex, nothing with lace or flowers, but definitely panties. Our personal physician is a woman, and I feel she could care less about me wearing panties.. I also see a dermatologist for exams 2 times a year. I have only panties on when she enters the room, and when she examines my skin. She also says nothing. Both doctors assistants on the other hand have stared a little too long. Usually a 30 year old and I have felt and seen their look as they see me in a pair of nylon panties. I really do not care. I wear panties all of the time, so be it. Probably gives the young gals something to tell their friends and boyfriends about..
ReplyDeleteBut physicians really do not care. Maybe if I wore a bra or half slip, they may notice more, but I am sure they would not even say a thing then.
You both should attend each others physicals.
ReplyDeleteHe could go commando, that way nurses as well as the physician can see all of him.
If he hasn't behaved the day of or before and you need to tan him so be it.
When the doc asks questions, you answer for him.
Also, does your doc know you spank your husband?
I am all about both going to see the doctor, especially if this is a first visit with a new doctor. Patients rarely remember to tell the doctor everything they need to and it helps to have someone there who can help answer as well as ask questions.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the panties go, I am in panties everyday, but I do have some briefs that my wife has me to wear to the doctor's office, more for her comfort than mine, but if your husband is uncomfortable with panties at the doctor's office he is not going to be relaxed enough to let the doctor know what is going on with him medically. I would go with briefs to help him be as at ease as possible, but again, I think you both need to be there.
~Jake
Susan-
ReplyDeleteBy all means, go with him. There is nothing more important than the health of the two of you. And something I've had first hand experience is that one of you might miss something important in the discussions with your physician but the other might not.
Also, I love having a female physician. She is fabulous and I believe women have a much better bedside manner. Once she even wrote out a form addressed to my wife prescribing spankings!
And finally, as a guy who just recently switched to wearing panties, I'd suggest he wear them. What is there to be embarrassed by? Since I've been wearing them and blogging about my experiences, I have found it to be very common among the guys.
Ken (SpankedbymyLady blog)
I can't begin to express my appreciation to all of you for taking the time to offer thoughtful comments and suggestions. They have all been heart-felt from each of your experiences and perspectives. You are all amazing and very kind. They have been extremely beneficial in helping me resolve my questions. Since I'm not sure how many readers come back and read comments to my postings, I'm going to address what I end up doing in a blog post.
ReplyDeleteHowever, "Thank you" everyone. You are wonderful!!
Susan
Medical care is serious business. As much as I'd like my wife to take control in most ways, this should be an exception. The patient must feel comfortable discussing whatever they want with the Dr, fully confident that it will go no further. Anything else, and he is not going to be forthright. If he does not want you there, there should be no pressure. If you pressure him into making him take you, then embarrass him to boot, he may avoid telling her stuff. This also puts the Dr in a very awkward position, with possible liability dangers. HIPPA is pretty strict.
ReplyDeleteI accompany my panty clad husband to the doctor. She has seen him in panties as has her PA. To our surprise the PA said her husband also wears panties. The doctor asked if he wanted the physical nude or in panties. He opted for nude but she left him in panties.until she told him panties off for the rectal. She couldn't find his prostate. I got excited watching him squirm as she tried. Her PA spread his cheeks but still no luck. She kept him bent over and inserted a scope that looked like a speculum. He groaned. When she was satisfied, she took it out. His eyes opened wide when they lifted the stirrups. He was bright red as they spread his legs and placed them in the stirrups. I was wet. She again used the speculum. Then she inserted two fingers. She was able to find and examine his prostate this way. She said now you know how we feel and left him in stirrups while she went over the results of the exam.. I was so wet I couldn't wait to get home
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