Let's talk about the most significant first. Given our age (low 60's), I feel it is important that we both go to each other's medical appointments. I feel there is a need to have two sets of ears at these events. Barry feels differently. We have each had a major medical event in the last year and a half, which has made me more aware of this need. During my situation, I was very glad to have Barry fully involved and helping me make decisions. During Barry's event, which was much more acute, I had to be involved in making the decision of what to do because I have his medical power of attorney and he was incapacitated. Both of these situations makes me more aware of the need to both be fully involved. Due to the retirement of Barry's Primary Care Physician, he has now switched to my doctor, which to me, makes it even more logical that we both attend each other's doctor's appointments.
The second issue is really quite minor compared to the first. Barry has been wearing only panties for two years now. When he made the switch, we both agreed that he would discard all of his manly underwear (white briefs). Last year was our first conflict about whether he should purchase some briefs. Given my experience with my doctor, I didn't think it was issue. She has me privately change into a dressing gown before she examines me, so she has no clue of my underwear. Barry's doctor at that time operated differently. He would have Barry strip to his underwear and then lower them for a more personal examination. I eventually learned that Barry purchased men's underwear to wear to that exam. They have since been discarded. Since Barry will now see my physician, I don't see it as an issue. However, he does. I think a good compromise is for Barry to wear a pair of men's silk or satin briefs. I have even ordered a pair of men's silk undereweaer on line for him. But he is still concerned. He's not convinced that she will treat him the same way as she does me. I think he is also have some apprehension about seeing a female doctor (this is a first for him).
As a compromise, Barry has agreed to abide by the thoughts of my blog readers. He has also read this message and feels that I have accurately portrayed the situation.
Please share your thoughts about both issues:
- should I attend Barry's physical?
- should Barry wear men's silk underwear that I purchased or traditional men's white briefs to the physical?