Sunday, August 25, 2013

Update on Chastity Device and Devotional Sex

This has been a good week and I feel like Barry and I are making progress.  When I implemented the reduced use of the chastity device Barry seemed relieved that he didn't have to wear it 24/7.  However, he also acknowledged to me that he didn't trust himself to behave without it when I am not around.  He validated my concern that, due to him having a private office at work, it would be too easy for him to spend time on the internet.

We quickly settled into a routine.  As soon as Barry finished his morning shower, he was locked up to go to work.  However, when he arrived home, I was waiting for him dressed in a sensual way and removed it immediately after he entered the house.  That was always followed by a brief Pleasure Kiss.  I also made sure I purposely aroused him several times during the evening and that we had a period of time together at the end of the evening, even if it was only for cuddling.  After reading Michael's comment to my last post concerning, I also began providing Barry with a brief taste of oral sex as I locked him up in the morning and assured him that there would be more to come when he arrived home.

I also used the "Suggest" command several times this week.  I did not always grant his suggestions, but I am very aware of what his favorite activities at this time are, so I can use them as rewards in the manner Michael suggested.  I did grant one of his suggestions last evening, which was one that surprised me.  Barry wanted to receive what we call a "Good Boy Spanking".  It is one that is administered in a loving, caring way and is significant enough to leave him with a nicely sore bottom.  However, it is one which is not so severe as to cause him to lose his erection.  Hence, he stays aroused during it.  The arousal is assisted by interludes of my fondling his scrotum and teasing his bud during the course of the spanking.  Since he has not been spanked for discipline very frequently, Barry was missing time over my lap and feeling a warm bottom.  It appears that this will be a way to give Barry his "spanking fix" without it involving punishment (accept when his behavior in other areas warrants it).

This felt like a good week and that we made progress.  However, I am not ready to send Barry to work (or anywhere without me) without his device yet.  I think he and I will both know when that is appropriate.




    He is a LUCKY man!!!

  2. My wife has been giving me weekly "good-boy" spankings, to good effect, whenever I lose a prescribed amount of weight. Since, like Barry, I crave such spankings, it provides me a strong incentive to maintain my resolve to lose weight. I have a lot of weight to lose, and this might take me a year to accomplish my goal. Without the possibility of receiving a weekly good-boy spanking, as an incentive, we both agree that I would likely lose my resolve. It is a matter of accomplishing a long term goal by continually forcing me to focus my attention on short term goals. It is working!

  3. Congratulations Doug on taking positive steps to lose the weight. Barry did the same thing a couple of years ago and we also employed spanking as part of the process.