I really like the way it causes the male to focus on pleasing his partner in a very mindful way. It creates an atmosphere where he gets pleasure from pleasing her. In addition, by allowing her to determine what happens, e.g. how she wants to be pleasured and how and to what degree she will pleasure the male, it helps the male learn that his orgasm is not the primary focus of intimate time. It also seems like by not allowing the male to orgasm every time, it will help him understand this more fully and appreciate it even more.
I also love the language used in DS. In addition to "Knight" and "Princess", Devotional Sex has many terms in its own language which I feel create a romantic atmosphere of devotional love as opposed to sex. It takes away much of the sometimes crude or even vulgar language which exists in today's society and also puts the focus more on mindful pleasuring of your partner as the goal, as opposed to achieving an orgasm.
Following are a few examples that DS recommends and that Barry and I are becoming very comfortable with:
Pleasure - my vagina
Desire - Barry's penis
Adore - Barry lies with his head between my legs so that he is looking at my Pleasure from very close.
Pleasure Kiss - oral sex on my Pleasure
Desire Kiss - oral sex on Barry's Desire
Joy - intercourse
Joy Ride - Joy in the Cowgirl position (Barry lying on his back and me sitting on top of him)
Joy Deep - Joy in the Doggy position (me on my hands and knees and Barry penetrating my Pleasure from behind)
DS also has its own language for commands or directions that are used during love making.
Barry and I are continuing to experiment and it seems to be working. We are spending time on the DS website (devotionalsex.com) most evenings, and then trying out some of the new things we read about. He was quite skeptical when we began this new endeavor, but I get a sense that it is feeling better for him as we go along. I like it very much!