So, yesterday, after reading comments on my blog and on the devotionalsex.com forum, I made a decision. After we had cleaned up from dinner Barry and I sat down to talk in our family room. I then told him to "Reveal", which meant he should remove all of his clothing. That was very unusual for me to do when we were not in the bedroom. He retired to the bedroom and returned without clothing. I could tell that he was perplexed.
I then displayed the key to his chastity cage and told him that I planned to remove it, under the following conditions:
- He would be out of chastity whenever we are physically together
- He would still wear it when he went to work or any other time when I couldn't be with him
- I explained to him that I still didn't trust him when we weren't together, but that I wanted him to experience an erection whenever I aroused him when we are together, I will frequently try to make that happen
The bottom line is that I want Barry to get aroused whenever I am with him. I have come to realize that the chastity device prevents that. So, it will be removed when I can trust him. However, since I still don't trust him, it will be there when I'm not present.
This seems like a first step in moving towards more of a Devotional Sex environment.
Since my goal is to make him want to make love to me and not his computer/hand, I am already beginning of more ways to make him think of me whenever I can.