Tuesday, October 19, 2010
The First Changes
We started out very slowly, with me trying to learn how to spank. I had never spanked anyone in my life, and it was completely foreign for me to inflict pain on another being. However, Barry was patient with me and constantly assured me that he would let me know if I did anything that he didn't want done to him. I must confess that my first attempts were pretty lame. But, as I gained confidence and saw the positive reactions it produced from Barry, I actually began to enjoy it. It was fun to watch Barry's bottom turn red and to see his reactions
Our first spankings were definitely 'play' spankings. We still primarily spank for fun, but the 'play' spankings have gotten much harder and longer. They definitely provide a significant level of discomfort to Barry's bottom and leave it bright red. We also implemented punishment spankings, which I mentioned in an earlier post. They are applied if Barry breaks either of the two clear rules I have set for him; or if he does something which I a clearly upset about. However, those things don't happen as often any more, probably because they have truly become punishment spankings and they are not fun for Barry.
We have spent many hours over the past few years talking about what aspects of spanking that arrouse Barry, and I have tried to incorporate everything I can into the process. These include my dress, the implements and positions I use, the rituals I employ, the types of things I say before and during a spanking, etc. As I continue to share posts on this blog, I will attempt to talk about many of them individually in order to explain the types of things we do and why.