Here is how Punishment Spankings are now handled. When Barry has broken a rule, I advise him that he has earned a punishment spanking and let him know when it will be administered (usually that evening). I knew from websites that he had visited that Barry had an interest in wearing ladies panties, so he must immediately put on a pair of punishment panties which I have purchased for that purpose and wear them until the spanking is administered.
Since Barry usually maintained an arroused level through his spankings, the next step in his preparation was implemented to assure that he would truly receive a punishment spanking. Before the spanking begins, the sexual arrousal must be removed. We have done this using several methods, including making Barry masturbate as quickly as possible or by my milking him, either slowly or quickly.
When we're done, it is also very easy to take him in my arms and comfort him and assure him that I still love him. He is always very contrite by that time, having promised over and over again that his behavior will change while he pleaded with me to stop. His behavior does usually change for a while, lasting longer than it did before I implemented this new way of spanking for punishments.
We still have fun spankings from time to time, which we both really enjoy. They are always administered in a way that allows Barry to be arroused throughout the spanking, which he loves. I normally wear something very sexy for them,
So, we currently use two very different methods of spanking as our primary methods, depending on whether the goal is fun or punishment. I don't thnk Barry ever expected the true punishment type when he opened this area of interest with me. His fantasies were very different. However, he will also agree that it what he asked me to do. I have also begun to add new twists to his punishment and am continuing to seek new ideas.
I would also love to hear feedback from others re: methods you use.