Christmas Retreat - Part 2

When we awoke Christmas morning we decided to order breakfast to be brought to the room.  That decision was prompted by my desire start our playtime sooner, rather than later.  As soon as Barry called in our order, I reminded him that he belonged to me that day and that his first order of business was to take a shower and properly prepare himself for any activity I may desire (which he knew meant to properly prepare for anal).

While Barry was in the bathroom, I prepared my first gift of the day for Barry ... an under the bed restraint system.  We had been using some of Barry's old neckties at home, but I didn't know if our bed at the hotel would have a headboard and a footboard that we could tie them to. By the time he appeared, I had removed all of the bedding except for the bottom sheet and succussfully installed the system on our king bed.  I then tied a red bow to one of the cuffs with a note telling Barry that this is where he will spend the next several hours.  I also laid out a number of toys on the dresser in the bedroom, including the blindfold that I had given Barry to use on me, our Whartenburg wheel, a feather, my strap-on, and Barry's next two presents that were still wrapped.  When Barry came into the bedroom, I could see him taking it all in and his excitement was apparent.


About that time, our breakfast arrived, so I asked Barry to take care of receiving it while I got dressed.  I put on this little outfit which I had purchased especially for this event.  I knew that Barry would love it and that I would feel quite dominant in it.  Before appearing in the living room of our suite, I put the hotel bath robe on, so that I could surprise Barry with it after we ate breakfast.

I knew that Barry was excited, so I purposely made sure we took our time over breakfast.  It was a delicious meal and I wanted to make sure we savored it.  I also wanted to increase Barry's anticipation of what was to come.  That was easy to do.  Of course, I also let my bath robe partially reveal the outfit a couple of times, which only added to his anticipation.

Once breakfast was done, I took Barry's robe off of him and he was ready for action.  After leading him into the bedroom, I secured him to the bed, spread-eagled with the Liberator wedge under his bottom to slightly elevate it and provide easy access to his bottom.  Once he was secure, I removed my bath robe and started the fun.  After letting him enjoy the view, I straddled his head and directed him to make sure I was excited as he was.  It didn't take him long to achieve that goal.  I then let him know that he was in for a long session of teasing.  After blindfolding and toying with him for a half hour I asked him if he would like me to unwrap his next gift.

After removing the blindfold I opened a package containing a penis pump.  The gleam in his eyes was amazing.  I then took my time opening the package and reading the instructions to make sure I knew how to use it.  When I finally put it over his penis and began drawing out the air, he was as excited as I have ever seen him.  I could tell that he loved watching his penis expand to fill the cylinder.  However, I don't think he expected what I did next.  I installed the nipple suction devices that he had given me on his nipples and then told him I was going to go have a cup of coffee in the living room.  I left him as he was for about thirty minutes.  When I returned and began removing the nipple devices and the penis pump, his reaction was extremely enjoyable to watch.

I then decided to get on top of him cow-girl style and further torment him.  I should probably also share that at the beginning of our little session that day, I instructed Barry that he was not allowed to climax without my permission and that if he did, he would not like the consequences.  I proceeded to tease and deny Barry for the next two hours, using a variety of our toys.  I sometimes blindfolded him and sometimes let him see me and what I was doing.

I eventually asked him if he would like me to unwrap his next gift.  Of course he said yes.  And I opened a box containing the spanking strop shown here.  Barry has recently had a fascination with the idea of being strapped.  All of our spanking toys so far have been paddles, hairbrushes, rulers, etc ... all hard.  He has never experienced the strap.  On Christmas he did.  I removed his wrist and ankle bindings and put the Liberator ramp in the center of the bed.  I then resecured Barry with the bindings while he was bent over the ramp.  It put his bottom in a perfect position for strapping.  While I didn't administer a punishment type of spanking, I definitely let Barry know what this strap could do.  I took my time as I learned how to use it.  I quickly realized that I need to avoid any wrapping of the strap around his hips. It also didn't take long to learn that if applied to the backs of his thighs, it was deadly.  It is going to be a very flexible toy:  one that I can use for fun or one that can provide real discipline.

By this time, I wanted to give Barry a very nice reward ... an orgasm.  Again, removing his restraints, I positioned him on his back on the Liberator with his hips and bottom presented upwards and accessible.  I then resecured him.  He was now in a wonderful position for taking my strap-on and I would also have ready access to his penis.  I don't think I want to share any more details at this point, other than we both enjoyed ourselves.

By this time it was a little after noon-time.  It was time for lunch and a break.  And, the day was still young.

Christmas Retreat - Part 1

By the time Wednesday morning arrived, Barry and I were each like two young children who could hardly wait for Christmas to arrive.  In the back of my mind, I was also hoping that we each hadn't created expectations so high that we were doomed to be disappointed.  That definitely did not end up being the case.  We left early in the morning and stopped and had breakfast on the way, and arrived at the resort shortly after noon.  Our room was not yet ready.  However, by the time we had lunch we were able to check in.

Once we unloaded the car and unpacked our suitcases we decided to begin the festivities by showering together, with the promise that this would merely be an appetizer with no intercourse or climaxes.  After we dried off and put on some fun lingerie (Barry included), Barry said that he wanted to present one of his gifts first. It was a Liberator ramp and wedge.  The fun immediately began as we attempted the various positions provided in photos that came along with it.

We were quite giddy and enjoyed the impossibility of some of them, as well as the comfort of others.  It quickly became apparent that this was going to be a wonderful addition to our bedroom.  After much play and experimentation, as well as an orgasm by each of us, we decided we needed to slow things down a bit.  We took some time to explore the resort facilities.  We concluded that activity with a visit to one of the cocktail lounges where we enjoyed a glass of wine and decided to utilize room service for our dinner that night.  We had never done that and decided it would be a very nice, decadent treat for Christmas eve.



As we finished dinner, I presented my first gift to Barry.  The box contained a satin blindfold, a pair of fur lined wrist cuffs, and a thin leather paddle with fur on one side of it, plus the following note:

   These items symbolize my complete submission to you tonight.
   I am yours for the entire evening, so put them to use.
  Take me and use me in any way you desire.
  All I ask is that you be patient, tender, and loving in all you do.

                                          Merry Christmas darling,
                                                               Susan

     PS - Tomorrow you will be mine :-)

A huge smile immediately appeared on Barry's face and his first statement was "We are both going to have a special evening!  Thank you."

I've been talking with Barry and debating with myself for two days about how much of this evening to share.  I've come to the decision that I want to keep most of it private,  It truly was a very special evening for both of us.

It began by Barry presenting me with another gift.  A set of three nipple suction devices.  All three of them were put to use, but I'll let you use your imagination as to why there were three and where the third one was used.  He also made good use of the three items included in my present to him, as well as a number of other toys from the collection we brought with us from home.

I must confess that I was apprehensive about the blindfold and handcuffs that I gave Barry.  I have never been in that sort of predicament, but I found that I loved it.  Not being able to know exactly what was going to happen turned out to be a huge turnon and the handcuffs very gently gave me a feeling of helplessness, even though I was not helpless at any time.  I also loved the leather/furry paddle, which Barry expertly applied in a very erotic way.

Barry made sure that my sexual needs were met, as well as his own.  He is also pushed my limits in several areas, but was gentle in all that we did.  I must confess that he had me do several things that I would have never agreed to do if I hadn't given Barry carte blanche approval in advance.  However, I don't regret one moment of the evening.

We were up playing until midnight and each slept extremely soundly until 8 the next morning.

Christmas was another special day.  I will share some of that in my next post.

Susan

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate it!  This will be my last post until Barry and I return from our little retreat.  Less than two days until we depart and we are each still very excited.

Barry has been caged since early last week and I have done my best to keep both of us on edge.  The various gifts for him that I ordered on line have been arriving.  I have purposely left the unopened packages out where Barry can see them.  Most are in non-descript packaging, so he doesn't know where they were purchased, but he knows some special things are arriving.  I've been taking his cage off every couple of days and we have showered together.  Lots of teasing and fondling on both of our parts, but no orgasms for either of us.

We have a four plus hour drive on Wednesday, so we may leave early and have breakfast on the way.  We are hoping to be able to get into our suite in early afternoon, but there is no guarantee.  I almost feel like a bride preparing for her honeymoon :-).

Be safe and healthy over the holidays.  I look forward to sharing when I return.

Susan

Acquired Tastes: Felatio and Handwork

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Preparing for our Christmas Retreat

Barry and I each continue to be very excited about our special Christmas this year.  I've decided to maximize his anticipation as we make our final preparations, since our special time is now only a week away.  Last night during dinner I announced to Barry that he is not to orgasm until our retreat, and that to assure that happens I will lock him in his chastity device.  After some light amorous teasing and cuddling when we got into bed, I did just that.  He will remain in the device until we arrive at the resort, except when I remove it for some light sexual activity (no intercourse or orgasm).  This way he will be fully charged and ready for pleasure when we arrive.

This morning, I decided to increase the anticipation some more for him.  He was planning to go into town this morning to do our grocery shopping.  During breakfast we put together a list for him and I added some things that raised his eyebrows.  These included:

• 6 Fleet enemas
• KY Jelly (large tube)
• Lidocaine cream
• Condoms (snug fit)

This list definitely piqued his curiosity and raised his excitement level. I'm sure that he suspects that there will be anal activity.  However, he doesn't have any way of knowing whose anus will be involved.  And, I don't plan to tell him.  It could be his, mine, or both.

Now I just need to keep my creative juices flowing and find ways to increase the anticipation each day until next Wednesday.

This is so much fun!

Susan

Acquired Tastes: Anal and Doggy Style

Last night Barry and I had a discussion about my blog and the types of things I should post about.  He suggested that I do a series of posts about how things have changed in our sex life since we began this journey.  He also expressed is love and gratitude for how much I have changed and how open I am now to trying new things and finding ways to please him.

I liked his idea, because it makes a lot of sense.  However, I also shared with him that I have some hesitancy to write about these types of details with respect to myself.  It is much easier to write about Barry then to be so open and candid about my thoughts and actions in the bedroom.  However, I've decided to give it a try.  This is my first attempt to share more details about how I've changed in our relationship and sexual activities.

Until Barry and I began our sexual journey several years ago, I was very prudish about sex and not very open to experimentation or anything other than the basic missionary position.  I abhorred the doggy style position primarily because of the name.  It seemed to reduce sex to an animalistic act.  I allowed Barry to try anal with me on one occasion, but also deplored it, so he never pushed it again.

I still can't say that I would put either of those options high on my list of preferences.  However, I now am able to enjoy them enough to not consider them taboo and I am willing to indulge in them to please Barry.  Anal (whether it is Barry penetrating me or me pegging Barry) was the toughest for me to deal with.  However, by following several procedures I have been able to eliminate most of the negativism that kept me from being able to do it.  Following are the procedures we follow:

Prior Preparation:  Before we engage in any anal activity, the receiver always thoroughly cleans their rectal area and lower colon.  We use either a Fleet enema or a large enema bulb that we purchased at our pharmacy.  That reduces most of the mess that can come with anal intercourse and also eliminates the possibility of have stools become impacted from the penetration.

Lubrication:  The receiver is always thoroughly lubricated prior to penetration.  If it is Barry, he takes care of doing that for me.  If it is me on the receiving end, he also gently takes care of it.  We use either KY Jelly for Barry or a desensitizing product such as Anal Eeze for me.  These types of products contain some lidocaine which helps make the penetration more comfortable.

Condoms:  We always use a condom, either on Barry's penis, my strapon, or any anal toys.  This makes clean-up much easier and less messy.  It also helps make sure that there is no cross contamination if we move from anal to vaginal sex.

Partner Awareness:  We are each extremely careful to be fully aware of how the receiving partner is feeling during the penetration.  If there is any pain, we immediately adjust appropriately.

A few years ago, I would have never imagined that I would allow Barry to penetrate me in this way or that I would use a strap-on on him.  It is still not something that I would choose, but it has also become an important part of our lovemaking.

Susan

Planning our Christmas Together

Barry and I are both anxiously anticipating our special time together over Christmas this year.  I would like to begin this post by thanking those of you who submitted your wonderful suggestions for my special gifts to each Barry.  I have decided upon some (and ordered them), and am still making some decisions about a few things.  I plan to order everything by tomorrow.  I must confess that I'm having difficulty picking between a few things.  There are so many fun items that I'd like to get for him.

One reader shared with me that when he and his wife go away for a weekend, he composes a story sharing how his imagination thinks the weekend should go.  He suggested that it might work for Barry and me.  I like the idea and have discussed it with Barry.  We are currently discussing whether we should each write such a story, or at least find some way to share our fantasies with each other.

We have made a couple of decisions.  We decided to set a maximum amount that we will each spend for our special gifts to each other.  We have also decided that we will spread out how we open them over the time we are at the resort.  We're currently thinking that some will be opened Christmas eve, some Christmas morning, and the remainder Christmas night.  As we discuss our plans, it has become very clear to me that Barry and I are each focused on finding new and fun ways to please the other and that will be the focus for each of us.  I suspect that our positive experience with Devotional Sex has helped bring each of us to this perspective.

We are each feeling like little kids ... and can't wait for Christmas to come.

Susan

A Lesson Learned the Hard Way - PLEASE Don't Text and Drive

Yesterday I learned a very hard lesson that I hope none of you have to learn. Please don't text and drive.

I was on our local interstate highway traveling in the middle lane.  I apparently drifted into the right lane.  Before I knew what had happened, my car and another one were careening off the road.  I have no idea what I hit, but my airbags deployed.  The other car also ended up off the road,  I thank God that I and the people in the other car were not injured. The other car contained a mother and her two young daughters.  It was an awful experience.

My car could not be driven since the airbag had deployed.  Fortunately, Barry was reachable by cellphone and he came to the scene and could take be home.  Once he realized I was OK, it was a very quiet ride home.  As we pulled into our garage he finally spoke:  "Were you texting?".  I had to admit that I was.  There was again silence as we walked into the house.  I couldn't take it and finally asked Barry to talk to me.  He was obviously very upset and was having trouble being able to express himself.  He finally managed to say something like "I don't know what to say.  I have asked and asked you not to text while you drive.  I almost feel like turning you over my knee and giving you a spanking that you will remember for the rest of you life. "  For some reason, I responded that maybe he should because I deserved to be punished.

Barry immediately took me by the arm and led me to our bedroom.  He led me to face the mirror on my dresser and told me to stand there and look myself in the eye and to think about what I had done.  He bluntly informed me that I could have killed myself as well as a mother and her two young daughters.  He then left the room.

When he returned he placed a dining room chair at the foot of our bed.  He then took me by the arm and led me to his side as he sat on the chair.  Before I knew it I was lying over his lap and my skirt was pulled up above my waist.  The first spank landed immediately and it was a hard one.  This was going to be very different from the erotic spankings that Barry occasionally gives me.  He proceeded to continuously spank me hard.  I just laid there and absorbed it.  After a while he told me to stand.  When I did so, he lowered my pantyhose and panties to my knees and began to lecture me as he took me back over his lap.  The lecturing continued as the spanking resumed, even harder than before.  Somewhere in the process he switched from using his hand to my wooden hairbrush that I keep on my dresser.  I hadn't even realized that he had picked it up before he took me over his lap.   I finally burst into tears and just sobbed as the spanking continued.  The sobbing was not from the pain (although it hurt like the devil).  It was purely emotional as it sunk into me how close I had come to ruining a number of peoples' lives.  I was like a wet dishrag when he finally stopped and helped me to my feet.  I collapsed and sat on his lap as he hugged and kissed me.

Afterwards we decided to go out to a local cafe for dinner.  Neither one of us had the energy to cook at home.  I sat very gingerly and I am still sore this morning.  When I got ready for bed I inspected my bottom.  It was still quite red, but not bruised.

One thing is certain, I will never text while I'm driving again.  The potential consequences are just too great.  I am thankful that yesterday's situation did not result in a disaster.  I'm not sure how I feel about the spanking I received.  Barry spanked in a loving and caring way, but it was definitely a discipline spanking.  I know I deserved it, and in some ways I'm glad that Barry gave it to me.  However, I guess I'm just not sure how I feel about him spanking me like that even though I realize that I gave my consent.

Susan

More Thoughts on Devotional Sex

In a comment to Barry's recent post about Devotional Sex, Dave said "I don't understand why both your needs can't be met, why is it that she says its time to stop? Seems selfish to me, like she's trying to get revenge for when her needs weren't met....".  I was initially a little offended by Dave's implication that I am trying to gain revenge with Barry for when my needs weren't met.  As I've had time to think about the comment more, I realize that perhaps I haven't adequately explained how and why DS works for Barry and me.

With DS, Barry and I each now approach sex from a perspective of desiring to please our partner.  I actually now do many things for Barry's pleasure that I couldn't imagine doing two or three years ago.   Barry also provides pleasure to me in many new ways from several years ago.  However, Barry and I have also come to understand that pleasure doesn't always have to include an orgasm.  I don't experience one every time we make love, but that doesn't mean I haven't been pleasured and feel wonderful.  Barry feels the same way.  There are times when cuddling is all I want.  There are also times when Barry finds it very pleasurable to be teased and denied.  Barry and I have also found that his not always achieving an orgasm keeps him more aroused and attentive.  We each like that.  Several male readers also commented about their experience with respect to that outcome of DS.

I also realize that DS is not for everyone.  Our version of it works very nicely for Barry and me, which is the important thing to us.  I hope our sharing helps others find whatever way works best for them in their sexual relationship, whether or not it involves DS.

Susan

A Different Christmas and a Request of my Readers

For the first time since we were married, Barry and I will be alone this Christmas.  When we first realized this would be the case, I was extremely disappointed and worried about what we would do.  Well, about a week ago Barry surprised me.  He told me that he had made reservations for a suite at a luxury resort hotel that I have been eyeing for several years.  He made reservations for Christmas eve and Christmas night, so we will have two nights and one full day at this special place.  He also suggested that we do something different with respect to gifts for each other this year.  He proposed that we offer gifts to each other of items that would provide sexual pleasure, e.g. sex toys!  At first I hesitated, but I quickly realized that it was a wonderful idea.  We would be alone in a special place and would have time and privacy to enjoy each other and our gifts.  So ... that is what we are going to do.

All of this leads me to my reason for sharing this with my readers.  I would like your suggestions for gifts I should consider for Barry.  To keep things a surprise, please don't make suggestions in comments to this post.  Instead, email them to me at mssusanmurphy@yahoo.com.

I promise to share with you what we each give each other, and provide an appropriate summary of our Christmas get away.

Susan

BARRY'S TURN: Views on Devotional Sex

It has taken me a while, but I'm now ready to weigh in with my perspective about Devotional Sex.  Susan has been asking me to do this for a long time ... to provide the male perspective.  However, it is not easy for me to share these types of thoughts.  But, for what it is worth, here they are ...

I initially found the Devotional Sex website and shared it with Susan.  I thought it was interesting and I was fascinated with the idea of Susan controlling my sexual urges and needs.  Much to my surprise, she expressed interest in the concept, so we began to play with her being in charge.  I have to admit that it is very different than I imagined.  It gave her an opportunity to make sure I knew what she liked and didn't like about our sex life.  It also provided her with the boldness to make sure I knew what she enjoyed; and didn't enjoy.  It became a real learning experience for me.  I quickly learned that I had not come close to meeting her sexual needs because I had been so focused on meeting my own.

So, that is where we started.  I decided to embrace the concept and I worked very hard to understand her needs; and to try to meet them.  That was probably the best decision I have every made.  My sense is that because I worked hard to sexually please her, she has worked equally hard to please me.  The outcome is that we now each are working hard to please each other, instead of just looking to be pleased.

However, let's also think about some of the practical aspects from my perspective.  There are times when Susan leaves me 'high and dry'.  I am completely frustrated.  I am completely horny, and she says "It's time to stop".  That was initially not fun at all!  However, I slowly came to the realization that my needs would eventually be met at a level much higher than I ever imagined during our previous years of marriage.  That has been a true gift to me from my wonderful wife.  And, I have learned to please her, which I know has been something she never dreamed I would be able to do.

So, here we are ... just having retired.  We have the most free time we have ever had.  And, we have learned to please each other.  Life couldn't be better.  Of course, I still get frustrated when Susan say "It's time to stop".  However, I have also learned that by focusing on her, she now also focuses on me.  And when she does, it is wonderful.  

Bottom Line:  Devotional Sex has taught us how to please each other and we both benefit.  I wouldn't change it for the world.

Barry