It didn't take Barry long to make his decision, which didn't surprise me. Nor did his decision. Tonight over dinner, Barry raised the matter of involving Carol in our role play. He told me that he has been thinking about it a lot the past two days and he would like to try it. Of course, that prompted a lengthy discussion, which included some ground rules about Carol's involvement. I also probed Barry quite strongly about why this is so important to him and what fascinates him so much about having two women involved in the role play. I basically learned that he has fantasized for many years about being spanked by two women who are sitting in chairs facing each other, with him over both of their laps. He also focused on the arousal factor for him if he is put in an embarrassing situation with another woman present. That led to a significant discussion about embarrassment versus humiliation. Neither one of us want to go to the latter. Consequently, Barry and I will continue to discuss more details of what he considers to be embarrassing and what he considers to be humiliating.
I also want to express my appreciation for the comments I have received to my last post, especially the caution about involving a family member in our role play. After the situation with Barry's sister, I am very cautious. However, I also have a much better knowledge of my sister. If we proceed, Carol and I will have a very clear understanding of her role in this. Carol is also a very different type of person than Barry's sister. She has no ax to grind with Barry. She also has always been much more open to things than I ever was. But, the bottom line is that she and I will have some very specific ground rules.
So ... after our discussion tonight, Barry and I agreed that I will talk with Carol and see where things lead. Based upon her interest in my activities with Barry and what I know about her relationship with her ex-husband, I think I know what her reaction will be. She is fascinated with Barry's and my relationship and would have liked to have had a more creative sex life with her ex.
I will keep you posted.