Barry is still watching the Patriots, so I am continuing to ponder.
I have an interesting question. I am very active in a number of organizations that provide social services (which is one of the reasons why I have to be careful about how much I reveal about myself). I have been very aware of a member of a committee which I chair in one of these organizations. I have noticed that when she comes to meetings, she is dressed in black business suits, which seems a bit out of context in today's northern New England culture, even for work. A week ago her husband joined her at a social function. I had never met him before. He seemed a bit 'mousey'. I suspect you know where I am going with this. Since I wanted to welcome him, I engaged him in conversation. He volunteered that he provides his wife with 'breakfast in bed'. He later made a comment about her being "high maintenance". I couldn't believe what I was hearing and I suspect that he was a very submissive husband.
I am beginning to wonder if we can begin to recognize individuals who share our type of relationships?
Has anyone else had this type of experience?
Susan
I don't know. I'm skeptical that it's possible to tell just by looking at a person. Some folks who may appear to be rather mousey and timid might be leaders in their relationships. In the 'Real People' section of the Disciplinary Wives Club website there's a few comments where the guys are described as not wimpy or type-A personalities and the women are described as shy and reserved. It's a bit of a cliche but supposedly a large portion of dominatrixes clientele consist of high ranking professionals.
ReplyDeleteThat all said, I wouldn't be surprised if someone (of either gender) with a dominant personality could, when talking to a potential date, figure out pretty quickly when they're talking to someone with submissive tendencies.