The past fifteen months have been an extreme challenge and caused me to disappear from this blog. I should have shared why I disappeared at that time, but my physical and emotional energy didn't allow me to do so. I don't want to go into too many details, but the challenge was finding a way to care for my mother. We had previously successfully helped Barry's parents move into an assisted living complex; and they are doing well. However, shortly after their move, my mother's health deteriorated rapidly and there was not an easy solution. Luckily, I was able to take a leave of absence from my work to go and care for her. That was the good news. The bad news was that we had a long road in front of us. She was going to require long term 24 hour help, which she and our family could not afford. So, my sister (who lives near her) and I decided that we could find a way to do it. That decision turned out to be a wonderful gift to all of us, but also a physically and emotionally draining time for my sister and me.
To make a long story short, with Barry's support I ended up traveling halfway across the country to be with my mother. And, Barry somehow eventually found a way to obtain a new position in that area. So, last December we moved! (leaving our beloved New England). What we expected to be a very long haul time-wise became much shorter when my mother suffered a fatal stroke this spring. It was a blessing to her, but I am still grieving. I am just now becoming able to begin to return to somewhat normal living.
This entire situation was something I would have never asked for in my life. However, in the grand scheme of life it has been a wonderful experience. It was amazing to have to care for my mother in ways that she cared for me as an infant. However, it also had a huge impact on Barry's and my relationship; but we have survived it and are coming out of it. For fifteen months, my focus was my mother. That changed all we had been doing prior to her downfall. But, we are now getting back to being able to focus on each other ... which is another gift.
I am going to try to get back into blogging, since I think it will be helpful for me.