It feels like ages since I have posted (it has been too long). However, I have felt like I didn't know what to post. The past few weeks have been difficult for Barry and for me with respect to his being kept in a chastity device and with me learning to understand how to be an efffective keyholder for him. I initially thought I would just keep him locked up and orgasm free for a week or more at a time. However, while it is obviously hard for Barry, I was surprised to learn that it would also be hard for me. I like giving him pleasure! So, I have been been trying to figure out what to do. I have really appreciated the various comments that readers have offered, and have been considering a numberof the suggestions offered.
I have eventually come to the understanding that I need to keep Barry sans orgasm for a length of time to make an impression upon him and achieve full control. I have also come to realize that I also need to help both of us get through that process. He has now not had an oorgasm for a little over three weeks. It has not been easy for him. However, I think I am beginning to learn how to manage him, thanks to the help of your suggestions and reading I have done of other blogs.
I have found that letting him out of his 'cage' under controlled circumstances is helpful. I have also found that intense teasing (and denial) is also beneficial. The teasing gives each of us satisfaction, but the denial keeps him under my control. So, I have been removing his device about twice a week for a thorough cleansing (and shaving when appropriate) of his genitals, and also provides an opportunity for easy teasing and denial.
I have also found that the Ride-On PPA is a wonderful alternative chastity device. It covers his penis, allows easy teasing of his scrotum, and provides great pleasure for me ... the best of all worlds from my point of view! I have come to love the Ride-On. It not only provides me with great pleasure, but it also provides a great handle by which I can lead my man around :-).
Last night, during an intense teasing session, I also decided to give Barry a choice. I told him that I would allow him to masturbate in my presence and I would make him stop all stimulation the moment he began to orgasm ... or he could wait anothe three weeks and receive a full orgasm from me. I was a bit surprised to have him choose the latter option.
So, his celibacy continues; but my pleasure from his Ride-On and oral worship also continues. Chastity is definitely a new journey for us. Based on his decision last night, I think we are each enjoying the journey.