I very much appreciate the comments and suggestions submitted concerning Barry's ED. It is not a fun thing for either one of us, but we are working together to find ways to address and deal with it.
Last weekend, I decided to try something as a surprise to Barry. I hoped that the surprise factor might be helpful. We had not used 'role play' for quite some time, so I decided to so. After dinner on Saturday evening, I suggested that he go take a shower, put on his suit, and meet me in his office. When he arrived, I was dressed in a business suit and assumed the role of his boss. I confronted him with evidence that he had been spanking his female subordinates and also spending significant time surfing the internet sex sites during his work time.
I'm not going to go into details, but he agreed to do anything I asked rather than lose his job. My requirements included his being spanked and pegged. It didn't take long for him to have a raging erection, which pleased both of us.
As we get older and deal with things like ED, one of our adages is "Never waste an erection". Needless to say, we didn't.
So, now the question is what caused his reaction? Was it the role play or the pegging? Will it continue? (I plan to find out). I also hope to explore other options.
Who knows where this will lead and whether or not the same thing will work again. However, we are both encouraged.
We continue to learn and grow.