Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Family Secrets Exposed

The past month or so has been extremely challenging, but also very rewarding.  Finding ways to provide care for their elderly parents brought Barry and his sister much closer together than they have been in many years.  They really worked well together as a team and each respected the opinions and talents of the other and put them to good use.  It also unexpectedly provided an opportunity for much more to be shared.

On the Saturday before Thanksgiving when we were moving Barry's parents to their new assisted living facility, we were all working at a frantic pace to move their most important possessions into their new apartment.  When the day was done, we all collapsed back at the family home and decided to order out for pizza and celebrate with beer and wine.  After several glasses of wine, Joan (Barry's sister) all of a sudden asked Barry why he is wearing women's panties!  We later learned that Barry had apparently retucked his shirt in at some point and got it between his panties and his body ... leaving his panties visible when he bent over to lift and carry things.  Barry was initially so surprised and shocked by the question that he didn't know what to say.  I tried to jump in and save the situation by saying that he does it because he knows I like to see his cute little bottom in nylon.  Unfortunately, Joan didn't let it drop at that and the amount of wine and beer we had consumed reduced a lot of our inhibitions.  Joan eventually directed Barry to drop his trousers so we could all see his cute little bottom.  Surprisingly, he immediately did.  That would have been fine except for the fact that his sheer nylon panties not only showed his bottom, but also clearly showed the outline his chastity device.

Joan immediately picked up on that and the conversation took on a whole new level, since the device couldn't be denied and there was no way to explain it away.  Before the evening was over, we all learned more about each other than we ever dreamed and probably ever wanted to learn.  One of the things I learned was that Joan, who is 5 years older than Barry, was very dominant with Barry during their childhood.  She is also the dominant partner in her long-term relationship with Carol, who was also part of the family team and present that evening.  It also eventually came out that I spank Barry and the Joan spanks Carol.

Needless to say, I suspect we all went to bed feeling very surprised and/or confused.  In the morning, we had breakfast and proceeded to pack up and head home without any further discussion.  When we came together with Barry's parents for Thanksgiving, there was no time for any private discussions.

I am still trying to process all of the dynamics of that evening, as well as some of the details that we each shared with each other.  I'm sure there will be further conversation, but I'm not sure how it will start.

Aren't families unique and fun?



  1. I've said it many many times, you never know what goes on behind closed doors. As wonderful as these blogs can be it seems you know have a live person to talk to about this and that should be exciting.

  2. Hi Susan
    It’s good to see you blogging again and hope you continue. If one looks at just a fraction of the spanking and discipline material out there today one conclusion is inescapable, a lot of people, both sexes are interested in spanking and probably doing a lot of it privately. But we rarely talk to each other for fear of social embarrassment. It’s really somewhat humorous. I would wager that we all know several couples that have incorporated spanking in their relationships and tell few if any about it. Over the years my wife and I have encountered two other couples who have opened up to us ( both f/m) and we in turn opened up to them and it was fascinating to hear the varieties of experience. But they are I believe just the tip of the iceberg. It would take a sociologist to explain why adult spanking is so popular today but it surely is.


  3. Ms. Susan-
    Very interesting post and I too join in with those who are delighted to see you posting again.

    I think that its interesting that Barry's sister not only noticed him wearing panties but asking about it. I think its a classic case of 'where there is smoke, there is fire'.

    Cora and I don't have much family left except for Cora's daughter. And it was Cora's daughter that suggested I give her mother a call. And that was while her daughter and I were both attending a rather 'kinky' party.

    I think one of the conclusions from your 'exposure' is that the spanking 'thing' is much more common than most of us realize.

  4. Ma'am, I find the fact you have taken such control over Barry quite interesting, it is a strong man that is willing to submit to a woman, not a weak one. I commend you and Barry, A D/s marriage is not just about spanking. My mama cannot spank me, but she remains my HoH and I submit willingly to her leadership and guidance.

  5. Sounds very healthy! Well done.

  6. Ms. Susan- Oh man! I can't imagine being in Barry's place right then! Or maybe I can, lol!
    The part that gets me is how, knowing he was wearing a chastity device, you got him to agree to lower his pants!??
    Very interesting!