Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Finding Time for Each Other Again

I am very embarrassed to realize that it has been over two months since I last posted.  I don't know how it happened, but life became really busy for both Barry and me.  Because of that we stopped taking the time for each other and the things we enjoy.  That was a huge mistake and we are working on rectifying the situation.  I will share more about that in this post, but let me first provide a quick update on Barry's diet.  Even through the hecticness of our lives the past two months, Barry stayed focused on losing weight and has now lost 30 pounds.  He is the most amazing person I have ever known when it comes to staying on a diet.  He looks fantastic and has much more energy.  His weight loss also made me realize that when a man loses weight, it includes the fat in the pubic area, which causes the penis to show more and look bigger .... a benefit that I am enjoying :-).

Friday night of 4th of July weekend, I had a wake up call with respect to how busy Barry and I had become and what it was doing to us.  I discovered that he was masturbating  to the computer again!  A sad part of it was that it had been going on for a couple of weeks and I hadn't realized that we weren't paying enough attention to each other.  I was upset with myself for letting things get to that point, but I was even more upset that Barry reverted to masturbation rather than sharing with me that he needed more attention in bed.  I realized that I needed to take control again, which I did the next day.

On Saturday I informed Barry that I was going to take charge of our love life again, and that I was going to begin by placing him in his chastity device for one week as punishment for masturbating and not sharing his sexual needs with me.  In our hecticness the past two months I had also stopped shaving him, so Saturday night I took him into the shower and made sure he was completely smooth from his waist to mid-thigh.  I loved the fact that he was fully arroused the whole time I was shaving him.  When I was done, I locked him in his chastity device and then took him into the bedroom for a spanking that was hard enough to let him know I was in charge, but also loving enough to keep him arroused.  That is something he doesn't really enjoy when he is locked up.  During the spanking I let him know that he could expect to be kept in his device for one week and that he could expect a spanking every night.  I also shared that he would be well rewarded the following Saturday night when I let him out of his cage.

During the week I did my best to arrouse him every chance I had.  I dressed in provocative clothing whenever we were alone and wore his favorite lingerie to bed.  I made him sleep au naturel, so I could have easy access to teasing his testicle whenever I awoke in the middle of the night.  Every couple of days I removed his device for a couple of hours in the evening, during which time I made sure to tease him.  About midweek I started giving him hints about the reward he would experience on Saturday night.  I told him that it would be one of the fantasies that he has shared with me.  He didn't know it until Saturday, but the fantasy I chose was his desire to be teased and fulfilled unmercifully for as many times as his manhood could perform.

When  Saturday finally arrived, he was almost beside himself with desire.  And, so was I.  I could hardly wait to have my way with him.  I let him out of his device before we went out to dinner.  However, I made sure he was wearing the remote controlled vibrating cock ring underneath a pair of panties.  I was dressed in the bra, panty, and garter set that I know he loves and wearing a tight skirt and sheer white blouse.  Needless to say, I had his attention all through dinner.

When we arrived home I took him to the bedroom where I slowly undressed him and then tied him spreadeagled on his back to our four poster bed.  I then started to slowly tease him as I undressed and prepared all of the toys that I planned to use.  I'm not going to share all of the details, but three hours later after having been teased and brought to orgasm four times using various techniques, he was finally completely spent.  I think I have his attention again, and I don't plan to lose it again so easily.


  1. Glad to see you back, we enjoy your posts, hope all is well, and welcome back.


  2. Welcome back and nothing like a good sound spanking to let him know who is in charge!

  3. Thanks for an enjoyable post - you gave me some good ideas of things to do with hubby

  4. Susan,

    You should consider ways of never allowing barry to forget that You are in-charge especially when life gets hectic for both of you. In some ways he always has to be in a frame of mind that you control. He has to always know he is under your authority. If your not careful, when life gets hectic and your very busy, little barry will probably be masturbating behind your back. Given the opportunity, hw will give in to his own desires.