During my last post I alluded to Barry reverting to some previously dealt with unacceptable behavior in order to get my attention. This behavior occurred last Friday night when we went out to dinner at a restaurant we hadn't tried since we moved to the mid-West. Early in our spanking journey Barry had the habit of overtly staring at the breasts or (especially) bottoms of attractive waitresses. A few very severe spankings seemed to correct his desire to do this. Also, since we began practicing Devotional Sex, my sexual teasing of him before we go out and usually not wearing panties on these occasions kept his attention focused on me.
Consequently, since he was quite horny for me when we left for dinner that night, I was very surprised to see his focus of attention be directed so intensely on the bottom of the hostess in the restaurant. When we were seated, he took the seat with the best view of the restaurant (he normally offers it to me). He then proceeded to ogle the young woman every time she walked through the restaurant to seat parties.
I light heartedly reminded him with an expression I had previously used .... "If your eyes stray, your bottom will pay". That didn't seem to phase him. So, on the way out of the restaurant, as we walked by the hostess station, I commented to Barry in a voice loud enough for her to hear "Since you couldn't keep your eyes off the hostess' bottom tonight, when we get home your's is going to be spanked so hard that you won't enjoy sitting down tomorrow.
During the drive home we had a lengthy discussion about Barry's behavior and how surprised I was by it. I slowly learned from him that he was just trying to get my attention and give me a reason to give him a good spanking. He expressed his periodic need for a good sound spanking, but did admit that he preferred it not to be as hard as some of the worst ones I have previously given him.
Well, when we arrived home, I don't think I failed to disappoint him. I spanked him not for staring at the hostess' bottom, but for not openly sharing his sexual needs with me. The end result was a very red and sore bottom. However, since it was administered relatively slowly, it did not result in tears or significant bruising. And, afterwards, our devotional time was intense and resulted in Barry being allowed to climax.
In the future, I hope that neither one of us as to resort to such extreme measures to get the other's attention about our sexual needs.