First Week's Results

Sunday was the first "weigh in" day for Barry.  The official event occurred shortly after we awoke.  Much to his pleasure, he lost 3.2 lbs!  Needless to say he was thrilled and I was very proud of him.  So, he is enjoying sexual pleasure every night this week and will receive a special treat one night.  The actual night and details are still to be determined.  He is also now out of his Exobelt for the week, but is still wearing his red control panties every day as a constant reminder of his goal.  He readily admits that they help him stay on the diet during the day at work.

He and I both know that the first week is usually the week of greatest weight loss, but I am very impressed with his focus at this time.  I wish I had his discipline when I need to diet :-)

Susan

Modification to Barry's Diet Plan

Last night as Barry and I were making love, it dawned on me that sex would be a very powerful motivational tool.  Interestingly, this morning when I checked this blog, I saw a comment from Harry to last night's post in which he suggests sex as a more positive reinforcement tool.  Consequently, I decided to add the following rules to Barry's Diet Plan.  They include both positive and negative aspects.

At each weekly weigh in,

• if Barry has met his goal of losing three pounds for the week, I will then provide him with sexual gratification every night during the coming week;
• if Barry exceeds his goal, I will also give him some form of special sexual treat one time during the coming week;
• if Barry fails to meet his goal, he will be celibate for the week, which will include being locked in his Exobelt whenever he is not with me (which will mean wearing it to work each day, which he hates). 

I'm hoping he at least meets his goal every week :-).

Thank you Harry for the feedback.

Susan

Barry's Diet

Barry had his annual physical last week and his doctor had a discussion with him about his weight.  He is not significantly overweight, but over the past few years, he has gained 3 to 7 pounds per year (with the last two years being 6 and 7.  His doctor is not concerned about his current weight, but he did share his concern that if the trend continues, ten years from now Barry will be almost 100 pounds overweight.  That got Barry's (and my) attention!

Being a loving wife who cares about my husband's health, I decided to help Barry lose the 15-20 pounds of extra weight and establish a healthier eating routine for the long term.  Last night he agreed to the following motivational plan.

Goal:  Lose 20 pounds at a rate of 3 pounds per week

This morning was Barry's first official weigh in.  I will now weigh him every seventh day.  If he loses 3 pounds from the previous weigh in, there is no penalty.  However, if he has not lost 3 pounds, he will be spanked every night until the next weekly weigh in.  The spankings will consist of 2 hard strokes with our heavy wooden bath brush (which Barry hates) for every pound he still has to lose. 

To insure that he understands the significance of losing 3 pounds per week and to give him significant motivation as he begins this program, he will be spanked each night during this first week.  I suspect that 40 with the bath brush will motivate him to watch his intake tomorrow.

For added motivation and to make sure he is constantly aware of his need to lose weight, he will also wear his red control punishment panties every day until he achieves his goal (I will go buy him two new pair tomorrow, so that we don't have to wash them every night).

I will also help him with what we have at home for breakfast and dinner and have healthy options from which he can take his lunch to work, instead of eating out each day (which has become his habit the past few years).

Of course, we will keep you posted as to how he is doing :-).

Susan

Losing my Cherry, So to Speak

Susan has been encouraging me (well, actually pushing me) to share my thoughts about our entry into the world of strap-on play. I resisted at first, but am now willing to share some more details, as well as my reaction to it.

For quite some time I have been very intrigued and arroused by photos of women wearing a strap-on, especially those in which the woman appears curious, kind, and funloving about it. I am not drawn to those that are more harsh, domineering, or cruel. So, I was quite excited when Susan told me about her plans for my special treat. I can't say I liked the idea of being in my cage and wearing lingerie all day at work. I am still afraid of someone discovering that little secret in the office. But, I obviously complied with her directions and they had the effect she desired on me - keeping my attention focused on what would happen that evening. I am constantly aware of my cage when I am in it. I am also constantly aware of the different feel of my trousers when they are worn over panties and stockings. They slide over my legs and my legs feel much more confined. So, I was constantly reminded all day of what would happen that night.

On the way home from work, I stopped at a Rite Aid to pick up a few things. At the risk of earning a spanking, I will share that Susan doesn't usually think of all the details for some of her little plans. I wanted to make sure that the details were provided for, so I purchased a Fleet enema, some condoms, and a large tube of KY jelly. I was sure that making sure my lower part was fully evacuated and the use of a condom would make things much more pleasant and easier to clean up for both of us. I also wanted to be sure she had plenty of lube!

When I arrived home, she saw the bag and asked what I had bought. She was a little upset with me for not relying on her. She acknowledged that she hadn't thought about the enema or the condoms. But she also told me that I had earned a spanking for my actions. It was not a punishment level spanking, but it was also not quite the erotic spanking she alluded to in her post.

After using the Fleet and showering, I arrived in the bedroom and dressed the was she directed. I was then required to lay over a pillow on the bed, so she could sit on the small of my back and spank me in a manner you see in this photo. I love to be spanked like that (except when it is true punishment). She worked all areas of my bottom quite well and I knew I had been spanked when she was done. But, I was also pretty erect throughout the whole process. When she was done she made me kneel in front of her and use my mouth on the strap-on. I resisted at first. But, when I realized I could hold her beautiful bottom in my hands while doing so, it became a very erotic experience for me.

She then decided it was time to take my cherry, so to speak. She was kind and asked how I wanted it. I asked her to take me from behind. But, I found I didn't like that very much. I didn't like not being able to see her. She then had me lie on my back at the edge of the bed and raise my legs. She stood and was at a perfect level. I confess that I loved it! I could watch her and she could watch me. She also had easy access to stimulate and tease me. Of course I loved that.

The entire experience is puzzling to me. It was different than I expected. But, very pleasant and erotic. Susan asked me if I have any "bi" thoughts, and I don't. If I was asked to do those things with a man, I would be completely repulsed. But, watching Susan's face and smile as she lubed up and gently pentetrated me was very erotic. I know I'm not doing a very good job of explaining. But, it is the best I can offer at this time.

Barry

Barry's Treat for Posting

This post is one that I had to put aside after composing it to see if I was really brave enough to share the details of Friday, April 1 with everyone.  I have decided that I will do so, but with some hesitation due to it involving a completely new activity for Barry and me.  And, "no", it was not an April Fools joke for either of us.

Back in January, I offered Barry an incentive to actively participate in this blog with me.  If he didn't post at least one time in a month, he would be punished.  However, if he posted three or more times in a month, he would receive a special sexual treat as a reward.  Realizing that Barry might achieve three posts in a month, I began thinking about what types of treats I would offer him.  I decided that it should be something very special to him, in order to provide continued incentive.  I also decided that it would be good for the first one to involve something completely new for us.

Barry has always had strap-on play as a high priority.  However, it has not been high on my list.  I guess I haven't been able to fully understand why it interests him., especially since he has no gay interests or tendencies whatsoever.  So, I decided to research it, which I did.  It seems like many men enjoy it, so I decided to take on the challenge.  I also researched strap-on tools and purchased a quality harness and realistic looking dildo of a modest size (Doc Johnson Vac-u-Lock).

That all happened in February, unbeknownst to Barry.  I decided to keep it a secret.  He didn't post three times in February, so they stayed hidden in my dresser.  However, in March, Barry posted four times.  Post number three was not a good one, so I told Barry that it didn't count.  However, he redeemed himself with the fourth post of the month.  Hence, Friday, April 1 seemed like a good time to give Barry his reward.

When we went to bed on March 31, I told Barry that I wanted some time with him in the morning, so suggested we set our alarm a half hour earlier than usual.  When we awoke, I told him I would meet him in the shower.  When I joined him there, I let him know that I was going to make sure his genitals and bottom were very clean shaven and smooth  for a special treat he would receive that night in honor of his four posts in March.  I also told him that he would be sent to work with his Ecobelt locked in place and wearing panties, to help him fully anticipate what a special night it would be.  He began to protest, telling me that he couldn't deal with wearing the chastity device and panties because he had two high level meetings that day.  That just increased my resolve to have him go to work that way because I new he would be self-conscious of  himself even more.  So, I told him that since he would be in formal meetings, we would be more formal with his lingerie.  When we finished in the shower, I put out a pair of burgundy full cover satin panties along with a black garter belt and gun metal grey stockings.  Needless to say, he was not happy, but I thought he looked wonderful in them :-).

While I shaved him in the shower, I paid extra attention to shaving his bottom, especially in his bottom cleavage and all around his anus.  He noticed that extra attention and when we finished, he looked at me expectantly and asked "Are you planning to peg me tonight?"  I don't know what prompted be to respond as I did, because I never talk like this to Barry, even in the bedroom.  However, I looked him straight in the eyes and said essentially, "Oh no darling.  I thing 'peg' is a very cold and mechanical term.  Tonight I plan to fuck you."

The look on his face was priceless.  I'm not sure whether my language shocked him, or the reality of what I told him I planned to do.  But his expression and his guttural/primal groan both expressed a combination of desire and fear.  I must confess that I loved the reaction, and I knew we would have fun that evening.

When Barry arrived home Friday evening, I was dressed in a manner which he finds very arousing:  shelf bra under a white fitted blouse, garter belt, stockings, panties under a black skirt.  I usually wear a very tight fitting skirt, but this night I chose one with a bit more room, because I was also wearing my strap-on.  The skirt was not lose enough to conceal the strap-on, but at least it minimized its presence.  Barry noticed it the moment he walked in the door, and again emitted the same low guttural groan.  Of course, I drew the evening out:  making sure we took time to enjoy a glass of wine before dinner, followed by leisurely dining.  He was begging me to remove his Ecobelt from the time he got home, but I decided it would be better to keep him under lock and key a bit longer.

After dinner, I sent Barry to take a shower while I cleaned up the table and kitchen.  I told him that I would meet him in the bedroom and I expected to see him dressed again in the garter belt, stockings, and panties.  About a half hour later I entered the bedroom and found him dressed as I asked and, of course, still locked in chastity.  I eventually removed the device, but not before teasing him a bit as I removed my skirt and blouse and applied our vibrator to the outside of his device.  I then unlocked him, and from the looks of the inside of the device and his genitals, it was pretty obvious that he had been aroused much of the day.  I couldn't help but smile.

I'm not really willing to go into the details of what we did the rest of the evening.  That gets a bit too personal with respect to what I am willing to share.  However, I will share that it was a wonderful new experience for both of us.  I will also say that it involved some wonderful erotic spanking of Barry, along with introducing him to experiencing my strap-on in multiple ways and positions.  He thoroughly enjoyed it, which also made it a very sensual experience for me.

We continue to grow.

Apology

I would like to publicly apologize to Susan and her readers for my behavior and my deceptive post last weekend. Susan has not required me to post this apology. I am doing this because I want to.

She was very upset with me Sunday night for two reasons. One was that my post was not honest. She is very big on truthfulness, as we all should be. She did not like the fact that I inaccurately conveyed how much time I had spent surfing porn on the internet, especially when it is the first time she has allowed me to do so without her being present. She was even more upset when she saw the sites I had been exploring. They were sites that include activities which are somewhat degrading and she never lets me visit them when we are together. She was very disappointed that I took advantage of the freedom she gave me.

I am very thankful that Susan has accepted and experimented with so many of the activities that I had fantasized about for years. I realize that I am a very lucky man. And I know I let her down by viewing sites that contain activities that she has clearly told me that she will never participate in.

I also realize that I got off with a rather light punishment Sunday evening. I am very appreciative of that. However, I have been warned what will happen if I ever post something that is not truthful again, or if I view the forbidden websites. Susan has made it very clear that I will receive what she likes to call her 'ultimate spanking'. This includes being brought to orgasm with her vibrator prior to being spanked with two of the implements I hate most (the wooden bath brush and the rice paddle). Two things that I have learned about Susan during our wonderful marriage is that she doesn't make idle threats and she doesn't forget. I have also learned that I don't ever want to receive her 'ultimate punishment' again. She has only done that to me two times. I should have learned my lesson after the first time. But, I was stupid enough to make her mad enough to use it a second time. That was several months ago, but the memory is still strong enough for me to make sure there is not a third time.

Thank you Susan for being a wonderful wife and lover. And, thank you for helping me be a better person.

Barry

Barry's Deceptive Post

As you know, I kept Barry locked up this past weekend.  In fact, he is still in his device.  When I arrived home last evening, he was quite pleased with himself for having posted to the blog and quickly advised me that it was his third post this month, which qualifies him for a special sexual treat (which was a deal I made with him earlier in the year to encourage him to post).  After reading his post, I also decided to take a look at the temporary internet files and cookies, which revealed that he had spent a consderable amount of time surfing porn sites.  That seemed to be quite different from what he conveyed in his post to all of you, so I was quite upset with his deception.  Consequently, I decided that there would be no special treat for him last night, but instead he would remain locked until at least this evening; and he received a pretty good spanking as punishment.

Since this was the longest he has been kept in the Exobelt, I also decided that I wanted to take a look at it and make sure there were no problems, especially with cleanliness.  I took him into our walkin shower so that I could use the handheld shower head to give him a good cleaning.  It seemed to work quite well, along with some shampoo.  However, it wasn't a pleasant experience for Barry, since he was prevented from becoming erect.  After the shower is when I took him over my lap on the bed for a good dose of our wooden ruler.  Needless to say, I got his attention pretty quickly and held it for quite some time.  It wasn't a severe punishment spanking, but it was the hardest spanking he has received for a couple of months.

Today, I sent him off to work wearing the Exobelt and a pair of panties.  I wanted to make sure he would think about what he did all day long.  I can't wait until he arrives home because I know he will be dying to get free.  I'm also dying to have him, but I think he deserves to be teased a bit more for being so deceptive.  So, I'm still thinking about when and how to release him, and what I want to do with him.

Susan

Locked Up for the Weekend

Susan had a busy weekend planned, which would leave me unattended for some lengthy periods of time. That gave her the idea to lock me up again this weekend. But this time it has been different. First, she decided to lock me up Friday morning, so it was the first time I have had to wear the device to work. That created some issues that I never anticipated. I was very self-conscious all day, worrying whether anyone could or would notice it under my clothes. That led me to being very aware of my caged cock all day long, which is not a good thing. I survived the day without anyone overtly noticing anything (at least I hope I did). The next thing that was different was Friday night. Susan was tied up until late, so there was no playing or teasing. In fact there has been none of that all weekend. It's been just me and my restricted genitals experiencing frustration and desire. Susan had given me permission to surf the net, knowing that I was securely prevented from masturbating. I tried to enjoy that freedom, but it only led to more frustration. I am now home alone again this afternoon, anxiously awaiting her return. Hopefully, she will have some energy to play tonight and will release me from my prison. I keep hoping that she will be as horney as I am!

Barry

Fantasy vs. Reality

Why do I have such a hard time realizing how big the difference is between fantasy and reality? Why didn't I learn my lesson the first time with Susan when I convinced her that I wanted her to give me punishment spankings? Am I just really dumb, or is this something that most people do? These are questions that are going through my head after last weekend.

As you know, our new chastity device arrived last week. Chastity enforced by my wife is something that I have fantasized for a long time. It has taken me years to even discuss it with her, let alone have her agree to try it. So, I was extremely excited about the fact that I would finally begin to experience it this past weekend. I was so arroused on Friday night that she had extreme difficulty putting the device on me. I had to force myself to relax so my erection would subside enough for it to be clamped around my balls.

Once it was there, reality came into play. Susan has become a master at sexually teasing me, which I love. However, ususally, when she teases me, I eventually get to orgasm. Friday night was different. I pleased her, she teased me. Her teasing resulted in extreme discomfort as my cock tried to expand in its new home. That discomfort caused the arrousal to subside. But, then I was teased some more. And, Friday night, the device didn't come off. I had to go to sleep unfulfilled and very uncomfortable. I didn't sleep much or well. This was not the fantasy I envisioned, but it was the reality of what I asked for.

Saturday was also a very hard day. The device is uncomfortable. It is hard to pee. The literature says you can pee standing or sitting. Well, I tried to pee standing two times. Both resulted in a mess. So, I was reduced to sitting to pee. Again, this was not my fantasy.

Saturday arrived and Susan decided to spank me in an erotic way, which always results in a raging hard on for me. However (and I know you can guess what is coming next), I was restricted, so the pleasure of her spanking only created more discomfort and frustration. The good news is that after the spanking (and a bit more teasing), Susan decided to release me from my device. We then made love that resulted in us each acting like a couple of teenagers. It was fantastic to finally be able to experience a full erection again, especially within her. This was part of my fantasy!

In the end, it was an amazing weekend. Given how much Susan enjoyed it, I know I will be locked up much in the future. However, much of the reality was not part of my fantasy.

Would I go down this pathway again, realizing again how different fantasy is from reality? Saturday afternoon, the answer would have been "no". Today my answer is "maybe" (because Saturday night was so wonderful). Tomorrow or next week, I'd be willing to bet that the resounding answer will be "yes", because fantasy always seems to take over.

Have others had the same experience with fantasy vs. reality? If so, do you keep repeating the ability to ignore reality and act solely on fantasy?

Barry

Our First Chastity Experience

As you know from Barry's post, the Exobelt arrived in time for last weekend, so Friday night we put it to its first use.  Barry needed a shave, so after dinner I took him into the shower and made sure his package was as smooth as a baby's bottom.  We later learned that he was also a little chafed, which he didn't enjoy while locked up.  Actually putting on the device was a bit more difficult than we expected, especially since it is not easy to do with an arroused penis.  However, once Barry became a little less excited, we were able to get him trapped in it, and he looked like he was wearing a high tech cup of sorts :-).  I thought about making him wear a jock strap over it, but decided instead to use a favorite pair of pink nylon panties.

We then moved into the bedroom where I enjoyed teasing him and making sure he pleasured me.  I secured him on his back to the bed with his wrists and ankles tied to the bedposts, as has become a frequent custom.  I must confess that I enjoyed using my mouth and fingers to tease his inner thighs and all around his device.  It was interesting to hear some new sounds I have never heard before as he would get arroused to a point that the device would allow and then begin to feel discomfort and lose arrousal.  The ups and downs were interesting for both of us.

One thing I don't like about putting him in the device is that I lose access to having him in me.  I missed that.  But, at least it lets Barry know that he probably won't be locked up for very long periods of time.  I kept him in the device all night Friday and all day Saturday.  That evening, we played again, including a fun spanking for him while wearing the device, before I let him out so that I could ride him.  And, he was really ready for it.  That made the wait worthwhile for me too.

So, our first experience was good, and I'm now looking forward to more ways to employ this new toy.  I will also feel more secure that I can stop Barry from masturbating when he is out of my sight for lengthy periods of time.

Susan

A Special Anniversary

It has now been one year since Barry and I started our journey of incorporating spanking and other fun into our marriage.  It was not a path that I would have chosen, which is evident by the fact that we were married for almost thirty years before I realized how much it meant to Barry and how important it would be to our marriage.  Twelve months ago, I could have never dreamed of what Barry and I are currently doing now, especially what we did last night with respect to exploring chastity (that needs to be a separate post).  In the last year there have been so many new things that I have explored and enjoyed, that I would have previously completely rejected as being wierd or perverted.  Just to name a few:

• spanking Barry for fun
• administering a punishment spanking to Barry
• allowing Barry to give me an erotic spanking ... and enjoying it
• making and enjoying Barry wear panties
• shaving Barry's genitals
• erotically teasing Barry and actually deciding if, when, and how he will climax
• really enjoying letting Barry orally pleasure me
• erotically teasing Barry in a public place in a way that no one else knew it was happening
• asserting myself with respect to sexuality
• purchasing sexual toys on line
• experimenting with a male chastity device

In addition to feeling amazed, I am also feeling extensive gratitue as I realize how much these activities have enriched our relationship as we move into a new phase of our life with respect to age and activity.

This has been an amazing gift and I will be forever grateful for its impact on our marriage.

Susan

A Possible Chastity Solution

Susan has asked me to share our appreciation for the comments and suggested solutions to our chastity belt challenge. We have tried the CB-6000 short as our first option. Unfortunately, due to my shrinkage capability, I would slide out of it without even trying. When I am not arroused, I shrink significantly and my penis almost disappears. It becomes a small nub, which is very humilitating. Fortunately, it grows significantly when I am arroused, and I am very thankful that Susan has never teased me about its size when shrunken. She actually seems to enjoy making it grow to a useful size, which she also loves having inside her.

Yesterday we received our latest attempt to find something that will be secure. It is the Exobelt V1. I have included two photos below. As you can see, it attempts to provide a covering of the scrotum and penis which is held tightly against the lower abdomen by clamping tightly to the scrotum and testicles. It looks quite uncomfortable to me and I am beginning to wonder why I ever encouraged Susan to pursue this bit of fantasy with me. We played around with it a bit last night to figure out which spacers to use and it is going to be quite snug and confining. It also seems like it may be secure.

Susan has decided that since I am due for a shaving tonight, she will put it in place at that time and my initial lock up period will be at least 24 hours. Since Susan usually likes to tease and play with me after shaving, I am a bit concerned. This thing doesn't look like it has much room for any expansion due to arrousal. I hadn't thought about that aspect of being locked up!

Barry

Chastity Challenge

I must apologize for not posting for so long.  Extended family issues arose that were a bit distracting to Barry and me for part of the time.  And, if I'm honest, I've been procrastinating about whether to actually publish this particular post.  Barry and I each have had mixed feelings about sharing this topic, but we have finally agreed to do so.  Also, at least Barry managed to post in early February, thus avoiding his promised punishment if he does do so each month.

In my last post I shared with you that we had decided to purchase some 'non-pervertible' type toys, which was a huge step for us.  One of the items was a chastity device for Barry.  One of his many kinky fantasies has always been to have me control him.  I have been hesitant to go there, but finally agreed, especially after learning that Barry had been masturbating when away from home.

However, we have run into a challenge and this is the part that has been hard to decide to share.  The first device we bought was a complete failure because we failed to take into consideration some aspects of Barry's penis - It is a shrinker.  When he is arroused, it is a  respectable four inches in length and is capable of providing all the pleasure we each desire.  However, when he is flacid, it almost shrinks inside his body.  It is typically only an inch or two and very soft, and at times it can almost disappear.  I'm sure you can begin to see the problem.  The device easily slips off when he is flacid.

I have been trying to do some research and have now ordered an Exobelt model, which looks like it will be secure.  It is scheduled to arrive by the end of the week, so we hope to put it to the test over the weekend.

However, if it also fails, I'm wondering if any of my readers have any experience or suggestions in this area.  I see that there are also some metal models that provide a complete shield over the genital area, but they look very uncomfortable.  I don't plan to keep Barry in it for long periods of time, but we do want to lock him up for time periods when I can not adequately supervise him.

Any experience or advise would be appreciated.

Susan

Barry's Involvement

I am thrilled with Barry's willingness to join me in this blog.  I hope you have enjoyed his first two posts. Each of them were a complete surprise to me, and were written and posted without my review.  I must share that we were sitting together a few moments ago when we read a comment about whether I tortured him or punished him when I was upset.  He immediately logged in and replied without even asking me what I thought.  I must confess that I was very moved by his defensiveness.

I also need to share my perspective.  I could never torture anyone.  It is very difficult for me to administer a punishment spanking to Barry.  However, I have come to realize that he sometimes needs and wants to receive one.  Is it painful to him?  YES  Does he want it?  YES  Would I stop if I thought he really wanted me to do so?  ABSOLUTELY YES.  I think Barry expressed it best when he said that everything we do is consensual.  That is why I also allow him to erotically spank me.

Susan

PS ... Barry asked an interesting question about whether a response to a comment should be considered a "Post" with respect to earning a reward or being punished.  I have mixed emotions. What do the readers of this blog think?

Where is the Dom/sub Dynamic

The first comment I received from my initial post contained the following two questions:


- You spank each other?
- Where is the dom sub dynamic in this?

I thought they were a good pair of questions, so it will be the topic of this post.

Yes, we do spank each other, but in very different ways. The spankings that Susan allows me to give her are purely erotic and are for enjoyment only. They are light, with my hand, and have lots of rubbing and light touching intermixed. Her bottom colors easily, so it does get pink. But her reactions during these spankings are pleasure and there is never any unwanted pain involved. It is all erotic for her.



Susan spanks me in two very different ways. One we call "Fun" spankings and the other we call "Punishment". I enjoy the first type, even though it often contains some pretty hard spanking and a significant level of pain. She starts them with a warm-up period, which allows me to enjoy them more. I can then tolerate a fair amount and I am usually still arroused at the end of the "Fun" spankings.

The "Punishment" spankings are a very different matter. When she punishes, Susan means business. I may begin in a state of arrousal, but she doesnt provide any warm-up. Because of that it normally only takes 10 to 12 hard swats before my arrousal twindles. When she is done, I am hanging on for dear life.

As far as the dom/sub dynamic goes, since we began this life style, Susan has taken charge of a number of things in my life:

• I can't surf any porn sites on the PC without her being present.
• I can't masturbate unless she requests me to do so.
• She controls if, when, and how I cum when we have sex. Most times I am on my back on the bed with my hands and feet secured to the bed post. This leaves me completely exposed and submissive to anything she wants to do. It allows her to sexually tease me for long periods of time, afterwhich I may or may not get to cum. It also allows her easy access to present herself for oral pleasure.

I guess our dom/sub dynamic is not the typical one that people who are heavily involved in dominance enjoy. But, Susan exerts a great deal of dominance with respect to our sexual activities. And, I love every minute of it. I wish we had begun doing this many years ago.

The only part I don't enjoy are the heavy punishment spankings. I used to fantasize about them. But I have now learned how different fantasy is from reality. The worst type is when she decides that I must cum before she spanks me. That takes away all sexual feelings and the spankings hurt much more. Fortunately, she has only done that a few times when I really upset her.

I hope this helps explain a bit more about our sexual relationship from my point of view.

Barry

Barry here

Guess it's time for me to begin posting. Don't know what my punishment will be for not posting by today, but I do know that when Susan says punishment, it is never fun. Always not sure where to start, but maybe it should be with a little bit about me.

I've been fascinated with spanking since I was a young boy. Can remember being excited as I watched Danny Thomas spank his daughter on a b&w TV show. Also remember finding ways to work spanking into games I played with young friends. One time I got to spank a young girl (my age at the time) over her cotton panties in the woods.

Porn came into my life during the college years. I was first fascinated with books that included detailed descriptions of m/f and f/m spanking. Later came to love magazines with photographs of the same. Susan and I had always had a very vanilla marriage until recently, so I had to rely on porn and my fantasies. I guess you could say that getting caught by her was the best thing that could have happened to me. Except, I quickly learned that her punishments are very different in reality from fantasy. Am also thrilled that she has allowed me to introduce her to erotic spankings. I love slowly painting her lovely bottom a nice shade of pink as she wiggles and moans on my lap.

I'm not sure what I should be writing about in this blog, so I'm going to ask Susan's readers for suggestions of topics. Let me know in your comments and I'll do my best. Might help me post enough to get a reward next month. That would be nice.

Barry

Life is Better

Barry and I finally feel like we are getting a life back as the situation with his parents has improved.  We actually had time for an evening of fun last night.  Barry had some time on the web (PC Porn Time, as I call it), with me by his side, of course.  We enjoyed exploring some new possibilities for toys and we even decided to be brave and purchase a couple of 'non-pervertible' type items.  "Only Pervertibles" had always been a hard and fast rule for us.  I'll save a description of what we purchased for a later posting after we receive them :-).

We also had an entire evening of bedroom fun as well.  Barry received a firm maintenance spanking, which he thoroughly enjoyed and I received my second erotic spanking, which I loved as much as the first.  Of course, those events led to lots of other pleasure for both of us, after which we slept soundly.

This morning, I reminded Barry of his New Year's resolution to post on this blog.  I also gave him an added incentive:  if he posts at least three times in a calendar month, he earns a special treat in the bedroom;  if he fails to post in a calendar month, he earns a punishment.  I also told him the rules apply for January, so hopefully we'll see a post from him in the next two days.  I have also given him complete freedom with respect to what he posts.  They will not be reviewed by me prior to posting unless Barry asks for my opinion.

It feels good to be back.

Susan

Good News - Bad News

Happy New Year everyone. 

The good news is that Barry and I had a wonderful Christmas and New Year's eve.  And, I even convinced Barry to make a New Year's resolution to join me in posting on this blog!  I can't wait to have him share more things from his perspective.

The bad news is that this past week we have been tied up with caring for elderly parents who need almost 24 hour care.  We are working to assure they have the care needed, but there are no easy answers, especially since most of the family lives a long distance away.  It looks like we won't have much energy or free time to post for at least a couple of weeks. 

We'll post as soon as we can ... and hopefully catch up on all of the other blogs we enjoy once things get worked out.

Susan

My First Erotic Spanking

Ever since I started this blog, Barry has periodically talked about his desire to erotically spank me.  He knows I won't accept a punishment spanking from him, but he has wanted to spank me in a very pleasurable way.  I have always declined, but I think he could always tell that their has been some intrigue there for me.  He has also always promised that he will only use his hand lightly; and that all I have to do is say "Stop" if I don't find it enjoyable.  Well, I finally gave in on Saturday evening and received my first erotic spanking.  And ... I absolutely loved it.  I have debated whether I should share this with my readers (and if so, how many details to share); and I finally decided that I need to do so.  To not do so would violate my goal of honestly sharing the journey that Barry and I are experiencing.

The past weekend was planned to be special for Barry and me.  We have always had a tradition of trying to have everything ready for Christmas prior to the last weekend before Christmas, so we can just relax and enjoy time with family and the true meaning of Christmas.  Since our children have lived independently from us, we have established an incentive to achieve this goal by providing a reward for ourselves when we do.  If all preparations are completed, we spend that last weekend staying in a private cottage at a country inn that we both enjoy.  The cottages are never filled that weekend, so we can always make last minute reservations.  Since we have been on our current journey, this weekend has been even more special, since we know we will have a very private playroom where noise from our fun will not be an issue.  And, I don't know why, but 'playing' when we are away from home is always much more erotic and exciting than it is at home.

We did exactly that this past Saturday night.  We spent Saturday enjoying the day as we traveled to the inn. We checked in about 4 PM and made dinner reservations for 7 PM, knowing that we would want some special time to play after dinner.  I had packed two of Barry's favorite spanking toys (our 18" ruler and the paddle ball paddle).  I also packed special lingerie for Barry and I to wear to dinner.

Shortly after six we decided to begin getting ready and ended up in the shower together, which we each always enjoy.  When we emerged we had fun dressing each other.  I helped Barry get into a sexy pair of sheer panties after I placed the remote controlled vibrating ring at the base of his arroused penis and teased him about how much fun it was going to be to keep him arroused during dinner.  He loved helping me with my garter belt and stockings and a matching shelf bra/panty set, before I put on his favorite little black dress.

Dinner was completely enjoyable in a very quiet inn dining room.  I had a lot of fun playing with the remote control and Barry was obviously arroused the entire time.  That also kept me very excited.  We walked back to our cabin about 9 PM and Barry lit a fire in our fireplace, while I turned down the bed, poured us some wine, and laid out a few toys.

After we enjoyed a few sips of wine, I took Barry by the hand and brought him to his feet.  I then began undressing him down to his panties before sitting on the side of the bed and taking him over my lap.  I made sure he was nicely comfortable as I lightly rubbed and teased his bottom and scrotal area.  I then began to gently, but firmly spank him.  I took my time to rub his bottom and sexually tease him in between sets of smacks and the two paddles I had brought.  I wanted him to thoroughly enjoy this spanking.   I must have kept him over my lap for at least a 1/2 hour and by the time I was done I was spanking him quite hard and his bottom was a lovely shade of red.  When spanked in a playful way like that, Barry can take a fairly hard spanking and still stay arroused.  When I had him stand up, I realized that I had made a mistake by not taking off my dress, since Barry is very much an "oozer" when arroused.  However, the cleaning bill will be well worth the fun we had.

Barry then brought me to my feet so that we could hug and kiss a bit, at the end of which he lowered his hands to squeeze my bottom and whispered in my ear "Now it's your turn".  When I started to quietly resist, he said that he wouldn't take "no" for an answer and reminded me that all I had to do was say "Stop" if I didn't enjoy it.  I don't know whether it was the wine, the romantic location with fire, Barry's gentleness and persistance, or a combination of all of that (and maybe some other factors);  but all resistance left me at that moment.  I looked him in the eyes and smiled as I said "Be gentle and make sure I like it, because if I have to say 'stop', it will spoil this evening".

Barry then helped me remove my dress before he sat on the bed and gently drew me over his lap.  He placed a pillow under my head and took time to make sure I was comfortable.  He told me that he wanted to make sure I could just concentrate on what his hands were doing and asked me to just relax in the moment.  His hands began to roam:  his left hand over my panty covered bottom; his right hand on the backs of and between my thighs.  I have to confess that I clearly remember blatantly spreading my legs to give him better access.  He eventually began to lightly spank me with his left hand, while his right hand continued to tease my thighs and above. 

At some point the spanking came from his right hand while his left hand rubbed my back. Also, I vaguely remember feeling him lower my panties to somewhere down my thighs and felt his fingers doing heavenly things while he continued to spank me with the other hand.  Somehow it seemed like he had four hands and they were all doing things that seemed very pleasurable.  I also vaguely remember feeling the pressure of his penis on my belly, so I was cognizant of him be arroused as well. 

Again, it may have been the wine, but I felt completely relaxed and was totally enjoying the moment.  I had no idea how long I was over his lap (he later told me it was almost 45 minutes).  However, I do remember him saying "I'd like to give you ten harder spanks.  Do you think you'd like that?", to which I replied without thinking "Please do".  And he did.  They were somewhat harder and more rapid, but still very pleasant.  Then, I just laid there until Barry began to move me into lovemaking positions.  I'm not going to share those details.  All I need to share is that we had a heavenly time together with no inhibitions; and Barry tells me it was midnight when we stopped. 

I am still trying to understand my reaction to being spanked.  I knew that the thought of being gently spanked was intriguing to me prior to Saturday night.  However, I never expected the intensity of the reaction that I had.  Somehow the sensations of all that Barry was doing with his hands were transmitted to the heart of my sexual being.  I also never dreamed that Barry would know how to spank me in that way.  This was one of those wonderful surprises on our journey.  I don't know where it will lead us at this time.  However, it feels amazingly beautiful.

Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays to each of you.  Our family will be arriving tomorrow and we will be busy for the next two weeks.  May each of you enjoy peace and joy in whatever beliefs or traditions you honor at this time of year.

Susan

PS - I couldn't resist including the above photos from Barry's collection.  Somehow, they seem to capture my mood and what I was feeling on Saturday evening with respect to the erotic spanking.  I only wish I was that young again :-).

An Amazing Journey

I can't believe it has been almost two weeks since I've had chance to post.  This month just seems chaotic with all of the necessary Christmas preparations and work obligations.  Barry and I haven't even had much chance to enjoy special time together, which is frustrating to both of us.

However, last night we enjoyed a lengthy conversation over dinner (and a couple glasses of wine) about what an amazing journey we have been experiencing.  What really struck each of us is how much I have changed and how much I enjoy this new life.  It is also hard to believe that it has been over three years since Barry and I started this journey.  It didn't seem like I was making any major changes.  However, the cumulative effect of many individual changes is amazaing.  Barry has also undergone a significant number of changes, but that should be held for a separate blog entry.

Following are some of the differences that we each noticed in my behavior and my outlook on our sexual relationship.

Prior to learning that Barry was totally immersed in his fantasies and was masturbating daily rather than making love with me, I was very content with our very vanilla sex life.  I was completely satisfied with our almost exclusive use of the missionary position with Barry in control of both of our abilities to orgasm (I almost never did).  I hated the doggy and cowgirl positions which Barry periodically asked me to use (probably because the names he used for them didn't seem very romantic or lady-like).  Although I was willing to try it one time, I really hated the thoughts of giving oral stimulation to Barry (I hated it when he called it a blowjob).  I also really didn't enjoy handling Barry's genitals or looking at them.  And, I even didn't enjoy it when Barry wanted to orally stimulate me.  He could easily sense that, so he stopped trying to please me that way.  As you can imagine from the above confessions, our sexual activity was bland and boring.  That was primarily due to my unwillingness to be open to or try anything that I considered to be "dirty".

However, once I realized that our sex life was a disaster and agreed to try some new things with Barry (starting with spanking him), I found out that many of the things I previously hated were thoroughly enjoyable for both of us.  I think the photo collections he had also helped show me that the things he wanted to try weren't dirty, but were erotic.  Most of his photos don't look like pornography, but have an erotic nature to them.  These changes didn't happen to me overnight.  But they did slowly happen. 

The first major hurdle was being willing and able to spank him.  That was completely foreign to me.  I couldn't imagine inflicting pain on him.  However, as I learned that he enjoyed and craved a significant level of pain from spanking, I was able and willing to do that.  I also learned that a severe punishment spanking was a way of correcting some of his behaviors that were unacceptable to me.  However, I still find it difficult and unpleasant to administer a severe discipline spanking to him.  I know that it works and that he accepts me doing that, but it is not fun for either of us.  I would much rather spank him at a level that allows him to remain erect (which involves a pretty significant spanking for him).  I would also find other ways to discipline him and change his behavior.  I have had some success with that.

I now like to control our sexual activity and we seldom use missionary.  I love to ride Barry (I still don't call it 'cowgirl') because it gives me the control of each of our pleasure.  I even occasionally have him take me from behind, but we don't refer to it as 'doggy'.  It gives him more control, which is a gift I am willing to give sometimes.  It also seems to provide deeper penetration and he provides a pleasure I don't feel in other positions.  I also now enjoy providing and receiving oral stimulation.  However, I still hate the term 'blowjob' and I won't bring him to orgasm with my mouth.  I just love to orally stimulate and tease him.  I also love to tease him with my genitals close to his face, since it raises his excitement level.

Another major area of change is my willingness to wear sexy lingerie.  Barry has always wanted me to wear garters and stockings and sensual bra/panty sets.  However, I was previously stuck in granny wear.  I now love to dress up for him, especially at home.  I'm also getting braver when we go out, as long as we are going someplace where we won't run into someone we know.  It is also a very effective way of keeping his undivided attention on me.
Shaving Barry and putting him in stockings and panties is also a huge change.  Four years ago I would have thought that was sick.  I didn't even enjoy seeing him naked.  Now I love to see and touch his smooth genitals and to encase them in sheer nylon.  I also now love teasing and playing with his genitals.  I think that keeping him shaved has played a huge role in changing my interests in this area.
Four years ago I didn't even feel comfortable talking with Barry about sexual interests, let alone sharing the things I've written above.  I still can't talk about these things with anyone but Barry or in this blog that is read by people I don't know.  However, this blog has been a huge change for me.  I want to express my appreciation to each of you who have openly accepted what I have shared without judgement and have encouraged me by seeing value in my sharing.  Without that acceptance and encouragement, I would not be doing this.

There are still things I have no interest in doing (and may never have any interest in them).  However, that doesn't stop Barry from occasionally raising a new interest that excites him.  I also now raise some interests with Barry.  Some things I am willing to talk about and try.  Some things are still very taboo in my mind and I can't go there.  However, the important thing is that we talk about them.  I am willing to draw a line when I need to do so, and Barry is accepting of that.  He knows when not to push something.
I am hopeful that he and I will continue to grow together as we explore new areas of interest.  I also hope to be able to continue to share more about how we are doing that through this blog.

Thank you everyone.
Susan

New Followers and Comments

Barry and I have been away for almost a week and are still trying to catch up on things.  However, I would like to express my appreciation to the new followers who have joined this blog in the last two weeks and for all of the comments that each of you have been offering.  I also realize that I have not done very well in responding to some of your emails.

Barry and I are truly on a journey as we explore this new aspect of our lives.  I find myself changing how I feel in many ways and will try to begin to address some of those thoughts in future posts.  Many of your comments have helped me in numerous ways, so I want each of you to know how much I appreciate them, even if I have not done a very good job of giving you feedback.

Thank you very much.  I will do my best to provide more feedback in the future.  However, I am also aware that the next month is going to be a very busy time for everyone.

Susan

A "Sensational" Evening

I hope everyone had a very enjoyable Thanksgiving.  Barry and I had a wonderful trip and didn't arrive home until late Sunday evening.  We each have spent the past two days trying to catch up with things around home and at work.  Barry also has a meeting tonight.  He doesn't know it yet, but I'm planning to give him a very nice 'fun' spanking when he arrives home.  We didn't have much privacy while we were away, so we are each craving some special time together.

However, before that happens, I'd like to keep my promise to share a bit about our fun night when we returned to the restaurant where Barry got in to trouble.  Before we left the house, we showered together, which is always fun and I took the opportunity to make sure Barry was clean shaven and silky smooth from the waist down.  I always enjoy doing that and Saturday night was no exception.  When I got ready to rinse him off, I purposely adjusted the water just a little bit warmer than usual before I used the handheld shower on him.  It was delightful to watch him squirm as the warmer water found his genitals and anal area.  It wasn't hot enough to burn him, but it certainly got his attention :-).  I then took him into the bedroom where I turned him over my knee for a good handspanking during which I liberally applied after shave.  His bottom was quite tender from being shaved and he really enjoyed the hand spanking.

I then dressed him in garter belt and stockings before producing a surprise gift I had recently purchased for him.  I made him close his eyes while I placed the ring of the remote control vibrator that you see pictured here over his penis, with the vibrator portion positioned between his penis and his belly.  I then pulled a pair of control panties on him to hold everything nicely in place before allowing him to open his eyes.  He obviously knew something was there, and he had  some ideas, but I didn't tell him exactly what it was at that time.  I just told him that he'd find out later :-).

I then put on Barry's favorite garter belt, stockings, and panties, along with a shelf bra that I normally only wear in the bedroom for him.  It holds my breasts up nice and high (a benefit at my age) and leaves most of my breasts exposed.  Barry loves for me to wear it when I ride him in bed.  I then dressed in a nicely snug black skirt, somewhat revealing blouse, and a black vest.  The blouse didn't leave much to the imagination due to the shelf bra.  However, the vest allowed me to keep things covered when I wanted to do so.  I planned to keep Barry's attention during dinner, and I did.

Whne we arrived at the restaurant, before we got out of the car, I told Barry that I expected him to focus his attention on me and that I did not want to have a repeat performance of our last visit.  I also warned him that if he didn't behave, the consequences would be much more severe this time.  I then showed him the remote control for the vibrator that was on his penis.  As I turned it on, I told him that any time I switched it on, it was a reminder to focus his attention on me and not the waitresses or other women in the restaurant.  Just to make sure it was positioned correctly, I felt his package and turned the vibrator on and off several times watching for his reaction.  I also told him that if he felt the need to go to the bathroom, he had better make sure it was positioned correctly when he was done (letting him know that I would check it when we returned home).

When we entered the restaurant, we ended up sitting at the same table we did the last time and had the same waitress.  She seemed to remember us, but I wasn't sure and I didn't say anything.  She was dressed in a very similar manner as the last time.  As she approached our table for the first time, I switched the remote to high, causing Barry to squirm a bit.  I must admit it was fun to watch him while our friend took our drink orders.  Barry had to look at her when he spoke to her, but he would then immediately return his gaze to me.  At the same time, I let my vest open a bit more to give him something fun to look at.  We went through this routine every time the waitress was near us.  I also periodically used the remote control at different levels just to keep Barry on his best behavior.  It was really a very effective and delightful toy.  I suspect I will use it quite frequently in the future.

When we returned home, we immediately went to the bedroom.  I directed Barry to remove everything but his garter belt, stockings, and control panty.  I also stripped down to my lingerie.  I then had Barry stand in front of me while I removed his controly panty and the vibrator.  I then took him over my knee again, positioning his penis between my thighs, much like Deirdre does with Evan (See Spanking My Husband).  I love feeling his penis between my thighs and I planned to spank Barry in a way that would keep him nice and hard.  I used our 18 inch ruler at an intensity that gave him the amount of sting he enjoys and reddened his bottom very quickly.  I applied it at a steady pace for quite some time, so that he would have a nicely sore bottom.  I had decided that this was going to be a "sensational" evening, meaning Barry was going to experience lots of sensations.  However, before we got to that, I planned to have him address my needs.  To that end, when I let Barry off my lap, I had him kneel in front of me as I removed my panties.  He took things from there and provided the first of two pleasure trips for me that evening.

I then told Barry it was his turn.  I put him on his back on the bed with a pillow under his bottom to elevate his pelvis, and then tied his wrists and ankles to the bedposts.  The pillow helped expose his genitals and area below his scrotum, along with his inner thighs to me.  I also laid a scarf over his eyes so he couldn't see what I was going to do.  I then retrieved the various pervertibles I planned to use to provide a variety of sensations for him during the next hour.

My list of toys included:

• Ice cubes;
• Wet wash cloth that I heated in the microwave oven to produce a well warmed damp cloth like flight attendents used to distribute on transcontinental flights;
• Hairbrush cleaning tool - looks like a very small metal rack (see photo below);
• Sonicare electric toothbrush;
• Hair dryer;
• Electric vibrator;

I'm not going to go into great detail.  However, for at least an hour I used each of the above toys to tease and torment Barry.  In between, I positioned myself above his face so that he could show his appreciation to me.

All of the toys were fun.  However, besides the obvious electric vibrator, the ones that most got Barry's attention and frustrated him were the brush cleaner and the electric toothbrush.  I especially loved using the toothbrush.  It was very effective every place I used it:  inner thighs, scrotum, area behind scrotum, shaft, and especially on the head of his penis.  That drove him absolutely crazy (me, too).

I suspect that things were somewhat more intensified due to him not being able to see what I was using, but I'm not sure.

In the end, I got on top and rode him so he could enjoy my shelf bra, while I reached behind with the toothbrush on his scrotum.  It didn't take long for him to explode in what I suspect was the most intense orgasm I have seen him have.

It was definitely a "Sensational" evening for both of us and I am very glad that Barry behaved at the restaurant.

This is a photo of the Fuller Brush hairbrush cleaning tool that has been around our home since the early years of our marriage.  I never thought of using to tease Barry until last week.  However, it is very effective especially on his thighs, scrotum, and penis.








Susan

Traveling for the Holidays

First, I would like to express my appreciation for all of the kind and supportive comments I have recently received.  I would also like to share that Barry and I had a wonderful evening on Saturday (even though we had the same waitress).  There is a lovely story to be told, but due to family issues with respect to elderly parents and our plans to travel for Thanksgiving, I am not going to have time to appropriately share details this week.

I also want to express my appreciation for the very kind emails I have received during the past week, to which I haven't had chance to respond.  I feel very guilty about that.  Please forgive me.  I will do my best to catch up when we return.

Happy Thanksgiving to all ... I hope you each have a joyous holiday during which you can feel thankgiving for a wonderful life.

Susan

Fun Night Tonight

Barry and I have plans to go out to dinner again tonight ... to the restaurant we visited several weeks ago when he got into trouble.  I've decided that it is time to test his behavior.  I will shave him before we go and Barry doesn't know it yet, but we will both be dressed in our finest lingerie again:  garter belts, stockings, and panties.  I love it when we go out and I know he is dressed that way under his suit.  I also have some special plans for him during dinner and afterwards.
I am truly hoping that Barry behaves himself tonight, because I really want us to have some special play time when we return home.  I know that I need it, and I am sure that he does too.

Hopefully he learned his lesson the last time.

Susan

What is it about this Panty and Girdle Thing?

Panties certainly seem to be the hot topic this week, so I can't resist sharing our thoughts.  They are always a hot topic for Barry; and to a lesser extent, for me.  When I discovered Barry's fetish interests and his extensive collection of photographs, the number of photos of that focused on panties, stockings, and/or girdles was second only to spanking.  The photos of women in panties didn't surprise me, because Barry has always tried to find ways to get me to wear sexy lingerie both in and out of the house.  However, the number of photos he had of men wearing panties was a huge surprise.  When we talked about his interest in panties, he couldn't explain it any better than what I am reading in the blogs this week.  He shared some of the same stories I have read this week about the Sears catalog, sneaking into panty drawers (including mine), etc.  He can't explain it.  He just finds women's panties and stockings exciting.

From the beginning of our marriage, it was clear that he wanted me to wear sexy panties with a garter belt and stockings.  That was completely foreign to me.  However, I tried to be accomodating.  I was not comfortable at that time wearing them out of the house, but I would dress like that in the bedroom for him.  It was very apparent that it had a very positive effect on him.  Before I discovered his photo collection, I used to think it was just a 'visual' thing, since I understand that men need much more visual stimulation than women.  However, now I have come to believe it is much more.  However, I don't know what it is.  The suggestions this week about closeness to the female sex organ and the 'scent' of a woman all may play a role in it.  Wouldn't it be interesting if we could do a study and figure out just what it is.

Let me now throw another question out there.  When I saw Barry's collection of photos of men wearing panties, I found myself being arroused.  I had never thought about such things, but there I was feeling sexually stimulated.  I was especially intrigued by men who were clean shaven in that area wearing sheer or lace panties.  I loved seeing the way the panties clung to and hugged the shape of the male genitals.  I have done some exploring of the internet, I don't think I'm the only woman who reacts this way.  So, what is it that causes this type of reaction?

I was also very struck by the photo that John Throckmortin posted in his "Punishment Panties" post in Spankable Husband.  That was the impetus for me purchasing "punishment panties" for Barry.  What triggered that in me?  I confess that I can't explain it, but I was enthralled by the thought that I could incorporate something that was very exciting to Barry as part of his punishment.  Hence, I decided to find a way to use panties to remind Barry that he had been punished.

Oh ... our minds work in so many strange ways that we can't explain.  I feel like I have provided more questions than answers.  However, I couldn't resist joining this wonderful conversation about panties.

Ken at Spanked by my Lady has also address panty aspect, but has also included the fascination and power of girdles.  This is something that intrigues me.  I also plan to explore it with Barry from several aspects.  I want to see what his reaction will be to me wearing a panty girdle (I find it a bit exciting); and I also am toying with the idea of making him wear one.  I must confess that I am wondering what it would look like if I cut a small hole in the appropriate place of a panty girdle that would allow his genitals to be exposed while he wears the girdle.  I think that could be a lot of fun :-).

Susan

Caught Red Handed

Saturday evening is usually our weekly shaving and play time (at least whenever we can).  However, last night we had dinner plans with friends, so we decided to postpone those activities until tonight.  While we were getting ready to go out, I had finished in our master bathroom and Barry was taking a shower.  The door to the bedroom was open, as it usually is due to steam buildup.  I realized that I had forgotten to brush my teeth, so I started to walk into the bathroom.  Barry didn't hear or see me, because he was standing in the shower with his back to the door.  Through the glass shower walls, it was easy to see what he was doing.   I decided to just stand in the doorway and watch.  It didn't take him long to finish his task.  As he did so, I announced my presence with "Did you find that enjoyable?"

He turned around with a shocked look on his face and mumbled that it wasn't what I thought.  "I was just washing myself" he said.  "Oh really", I said as I sat on the dressing stool.  "Then come on out and let me give you a quickie to hold you over until tomorrow."  He eventually walked over to me and I began to play with his package, including taking him in my mouth, which I know he loves.  Guess what?  He couldn't become erect.  "Do you still want to stick with the story that you were just washing yourself?", I asked.  Much to my surprise, he did.

"All right, my friend.  You've just earned one heck of a punishment for masturbating AND lying to me!  Put your hands on the counter and take a good look at yourself in the mirror while I get things ready.  Don't you dare dry yourself or move away from the mirror."

I gathered the wooden bathbrush that hangs by the tub and gathered a few more things that I wanted to use and took them into the bedroom, where I also took out a pair of red control panties that I had purchased last week after reading a blog about punishment panties.  I didn't expect to get to use them this soon.

I placed a pillow in the middle of the bed and concealed all but the hairbrush under another pillow I announced, "Alright Barry, get yourself out here."  When he timidly arrived, I directed him to lay over the pillow in the middle of the bed and to spread his legs.  After he did so, I sat on his back with my knees on either side of him.  I then proceed to use the bathbrush in a very rhythmic fashion, spanking all over his bottom at a uniform pace while I lectured and discussed his behavior with him.  This was not a play or fun type spanking.  There was no warm up and I really wasn't interested in hearing Barry's excuses.  I'm not sure how many spanks he got with the hairbrush, but he was bright red and pleading with me to stop long before I stopped.

When I did stop, I stayed seated on his back and reached under the other pillow.  Retrieving a bottle of aftershave lotion I had placed there, I applied it liberally to his red bottom (I should express a special thank you to one of the readers who suggested I do this to Barry).  I told Barry that I want to make sure he thinks about this punishment all evening, so he is going to wear some new special panties I bought for him; and showed him the red control panties which I purposely purchased on the small side of what size he normally wears.  I also added "These should keep the heat in your bottom for quite some time.  (Thank you Spankable Husband for your blog entry about 'Punishment Panties'.  That is wat sparked this idea.)  However, before you put them on, I also want to make sure you remember what got you in troubl tonight."  With that said, I stood up and sat on the edge the bed and directed Barry to get up and stand in front of me.  I then took out the tube of IcyHot Gel I had placed there.  I then rubbed just a very small amount onto the shaft of his penis and his scrotum.  I had never done this before, so I used a very small amount and made sure I kept it away from his glans.  I then had him step into his new punishment panties and sent him back to the bathroom to finish getting ready.  The panties were very snug on him, as I had hoped they would be and I made sure I had them pulled up nice and tight.

When we returned home after dinner, I told Barry that I wanted him to sleep in his panties that night.  He confided in me this morning that they were very effective in reminding him of his sore bottom.  When I asked him about the Icy Hot, he told me that it was a bit stingy for about an hour and it made it difficult for him to not think about his genitals and his spanked bottom.

Overall, I think I got his attention last night.  This evening I will shave him and we will have some fun.  I will definitely expect to be pleased by him.   However, since he had his orgasm last night, I plan to do a lot of teasing for a lengthy time and I have not yet decided how to end it yet.

Susan

Comments to Pervertibles

It was wonderful to have so many of you share comments about how you have handled the concerns that Barry and I have about being discovered.  I need to confess that most of our concerns about what toys we have in the house come from me.  However, we both are also very much aware that it would be extremely detrimental if anyone in our community learned about it due to the roles we play here.

It was really encouraging to hear how many of you have been open with your children.  I would like to think we could do the same thing under appropriate circumstances.  However,  I'm not sure how our daughters would react to our interests and activities. Conseqeuntley, it is very difficult for me to envision it.  Thank you for the encouragement.

George:  I really liked the way you and your wife decided to handle your discovery.  And it sounds like your children were great! 

Rob:  I had to smile when you mentioned the Cracker Barrel paddle.  Barry tried to find one in our area, but none of the stores seemed to have them, and we were too embarrassed to ask.

Rachel:  It is wonderful that you can be so open with your children.  It is also interesting that some of them have similar interests.  Barry and I have had numerous discussions about how much of this type of thing is genetic.  To our knowledge, neither of our parents had any tendencies about spanking.  However, that generation would have probably not acted on them.  I'm also intrigued about the long thin table idea you mentioned as a spanking bench.  That might work for us.  I'll explore it more fully.

Ron: The hairbrush and bathbrush are the implements that Barry loves to hate.  The rice paddle also falls into that category unless I use it lightly.  I like your "Guess the Paddle" game.  What happens when you guess wrong?

Ken:  You and Cora are amazing, and are an inspiration with respect to your openness and your willingness to share.  Thank you.  I must confess I have a hard time picturing what reaction you might get from first time guests in your home when they see your paddles.  How openly are they displayed?  Do some guests try to ignore them?  Or, does everyone ask?  I had to chuckle about your recommendation for the Jokari paddle.  We have seen that on eBay and other places.  However, Barry's immediate reaction was "No, we are not going to have that in the house!"  :-)  I'm sure you have convinced him that he is correct.  Since, I can very effectively get his attention with other implements, I don't think I'll push it.

Susan

Pervertibles

A few weeks ago, Barry and I made the decision to remove all bdsm type play equipment from the house and to rely solely on pervertibles (ordinary non-sexual, everyday household objects, that can be used sexually, particularly in bdsm play and spanking).  We didn't have much, but we had ordered a few specialty paddles that were clearly not normal household objects.  Our action was initiated mostly out of the fear of having such items discovered by our children when they come to visit.

So, we are now a pervertible couple :-).  It is pretty easy with respect to spanking toys and even bondage.  I rely on several of Barry's old neckties or some scarves to secure Barry to the bed.  Spanking tools are also readily available, as evidenced by the samples below, most of which were purchased from eBay:


Wonderful wooden hairbrush that is not too heavy.  It can be used for fun or punishment.















Good solid bath brush that I use solely for punishment spankings.  Barry absolutely hates it.

This thin wooden paddle (with the ball removed) provides wonderful sting for fun spankings.

I love this wooden oven paddle.  It is a bit thicker than the paddle above, but still light enough to provide lots of sting.

A wonderful old fashioned ruler that is heavy enough to provide good sting across both cheeks.

Based on the way Barry reacts to this rice paddle, it is the stingiest item we own.  

I like to spank with sting, lots and lots of sting when spanking for fun, but also like to add the heavier brushes for the few times I need to administer a punishment spanking.

I'm continually on the lookout for new 'stingy' pervertibles, so please let me know if you have any ideas.

I also would love to have a spanking bench like the one depicted below.  It is one that Deirdre Spanking my Husband uses.  She has been on hiatus for several months and I really miss her blog.  I love the way her husband is secured to it and how it exposes his package for teasing.  However, I am afraid to have one in the house.  Does anyone have any ideas of some type of pervertible I could use to secure Barry in the same type of position.  It looks like such fun :-).